How Tom and Bunny got into the swingers lifestyle part 1 of 4
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Ever wondered how TomandBunny got started in the swingers’ lifestyle? In this video, we dive into their journey—from curiosity to becoming trusted voices in the community. They share their experiences, lessons learned, and how they built a platform to help others explore safely and confidently.
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Tips for the Single Men in the Pineapple Lifestyle with Tom and Bunny
On this week’s podcast, brought to you by Tom and Bunny, we discuss the Single male in the Consensual Monogamous Lifestyle and offer advice and suggestions on how to be successful as a single in the swingers lifestyle
It’s a fun, open conversation, and we want to bring you along for the ride. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just looking to learn, there’s something for everyone!
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Dynamics of the Swingers Upside Down Pineapple lifestyle with Tom and Bunny
On this week’s podcast, brought to you by Tom and Bunny, we dive into the dynamics of the Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) lifestyle, better known as the swingers lifestyle! We explore everything from exhibitionism, soft play, full swap, to threesomes—and we even focus on the iconic Upside Down Pineapple 🏝️ 🍍.
It’s a fun, open conversation, and we want to bring you along for the ride. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just looking to learn, there’s something for everyone!
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Gen X Pineapple Swingers: Connecting with Like-Minded Folks in the Lifestyle
Hey, everyone! We’re Tom and Bunny, your go-to guides for all things lifestyle-related, working with lifestyle destinations like resorts, events across the U.S., or cruises, we’ve got you covered with fantastic options for adult vacations and more. Want something a bit more specific? Let’s chat and find the perfect fit for you!
But today, we’re diving into an important topic: Aging in the lifestyle. It’s definitely a different ballgame as we get older, and making connections can feel trickier than when we first entered the lifestyle in our late 20s. It’s especially tough when you’re looking for like-minded people in the 40s, 50s, and 60s demographic, where it can sometimes feel like everyone is younger.
That’s why we created Gen X Pineapple Swingers – a new Facebook group specifically designed for our generation, where you can find others who are navigating the lifestyle at this stage of life. Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or a seasoned veteran, we welcome everyone. We’re hoping to create a space where Gen Xers (and others) can connect and have fun without the age gap getting in the way.
We talk about Polly relationships, couples, and the evolving interests in the lifestyle – especially when it comes to meeting singles or finding couples with similar vibes. Not every group is open to all demographics, but we’ve made sure that this one is. We want you to feel comfortable whether you’re just curious or ready to dive into something a little deeper.
The group is fresh and growing – already, we’ve got some members and we’re encouraging everyone to share ideas for fun trips or lifestyle resorts to visit. If you’ve got an RV and want to take a trip like the Bourbon Trail, or if you’re just looking to get out with like-minded folks for a weekend, this is the place for you.
If you’re 40+, ready to meet people who are into the same things, and want to break free from the age barriers that can pop up in this lifestyle, come join us at Gen X Pineapple Swingers! We’re all about fun, inclusivity, and finding new ways to connect.
Stay tuned for more updates, and we hope to see you in the group soon!
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Join Tom and Bunny (aka TomandBunny) as we invite you into our world, filled with fun, laughter, and unforgettable adventures! We’re here to share stories from our daily lives, give you a peek behind the scenes, and take you along on our exciting travel escapades.
From exploring exotic destinations like Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica, where freedom and fun collide in a tropical paradise, to the sensual and adventurous atmosphere at Desire Resort in Cancun, we’ll give you an insider’s view of these unique getaways. Whether we’re relaxing at the luxurious resorts or diving into the heart-pounding experiences of the Bliss, Desire, and Temptations Cruises, you’ll feel like you’re right there with us!
These cruises, known for their exciting themes and unforgettable parties, are a haven for “pineapple people”—a community that embraces fun, connection, and adventure. We’ll share everything from wild nights out to the best moments at each destination, plus tips and tricks for making the most of your own travels.
Through it all, you’ll get a peek into our relationship, our passions, and the way we live life to the fullest, embracing everything from relaxation to exciting, bold adventures. Whether you’re interested in travel tips, lifestyle inspiration, or just want to hear some fun and crazy stories from our journeys, we’ve got you covered.
So pack your bags and join us on this incredible ride—we can’t wait to share our world with you!
We all get those annoying unexpected DM’s and Messages with absolutely no content that are so vagues that you just can’t find yourself responding to! Today we discuss our opinions and offer a few suggestions on how to actually message or DM people.
We hope you enjoy this podcast and hopefully you don’t relate to any of it.
Smoking – Bad Breath and Body odor with TomandBunny
Today we talk about meeting people who are smokers, have bad breath or body odor and how do we get out of a situation that may become offensive to the other couple. We are a couple in the lifestyle 30 years and Tom is a previous smoker and discusses this in the podcast and while at it we talk about bad breath associated with smoking and body odor also associated with smoking…. or not!
We hope you enjoy this podcast and hopefully you don’t relate to any of it.
We see a lot of times where one half of the spouse is so into the lifestyle they forget they have a spouse with them and focus all their attention on the new friends. We want to remind everyone that this can be a very dangerous route and you should never ignore or forget that your spouse is with you.
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00:00:00:00 – 00:00:15:22 Tom Hey, everyone. We’re Tom and Bonnie, and we got Bama here. Bama wants her stuffed animal. Hold on. Right here. Let me get her. If you’re watching this on YouTube, this is Bama. Bama bear right now.
00:00:15:24 – 00:00:18:04 Bunny She doesn’t know that we have to work.
00:00:18:07 – 00:00:49:11 Tom So we’re Tom and Bonnie from Tom and Buncombe. And if you are interested in pineapple topics, check us out on YouTube and on podcast on all the major podcast sites. Tom and Bonnie. And if you can, follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Tom and Bonnie and we work for Tom’s troops.com cheerleader and adult lifestyle travel to destinations all around the world with cruises, resorts and events.
00:00:49:14 – 00:01:08:18 Tom We asked if these videos help you and we’ve done a lot of videos. If these videos help you, please help us by booking any of your trips with Tom’s trips, because this is how we get paid to do these videos. It cost you nothing and oftentimes you save money booking with Tom’s trips. Yes.
00:01:08:23 – 00:01:16:16 Bunny And even if, you look at and you say, oh, well, they don’t have a group that week, I can still book you. Yes. If it’s available online, I can book it for you.
00:01:16:16 – 00:01:28:21 Tom Yep. We can book hedonism all year long and we also book Desire and Temptation, as well as The Bluest blessed Desire and Temptation Cruises. Yes. And Nadia Nolan’s.
00:01:28:24 – 00:01:31:13 Bunny Of course. And now splash parties.
00:01:31:16 – 00:01:37:00 Tom And splash parties. So today’s topic is.
00:01:37:02 – 00:01:38:21 Bunny Help you stay out of the doghouse?
00:01:38:21 – 00:01:47:04 Tom Yeah, stay out of the doghouse because, Bunny, she brought this up a couple weeks ago.
00:01:47:07 – 00:01:54:04 Bunny I brought it up and several months ago when I was first approached. I mean, we’re approached a lot with different things.
00:01:54:04 – 00:02:01:09 Tom So let’s give the scenario what you’re up. I mean, what we’re saying is neglect.
00:02:01:11 – 00:02:11:07 Bunny Yeah. Yeah, it is neglect on your spouse. Yeah. So basically what’s have basically.
00:02:11:09 – 00:02:13:12 Tom Well what’s what’s written down up here.
00:02:13:12 – 00:02:20:18 Bunny Let’s just start when you’re getting ready to go on lifetime vacation, to one of the great events.
00:02:20:18 – 00:02:21:05 Tom The club.
00:02:21:05 – 00:02:36:22 Bunny Even a club or a night out with another couple or a single, you want to talk about possibilities of scenarios, so you want to know where your partner is in line with you.
00:02:36:22 – 00:02:38:13 Tom And where your boundaries are.
00:02:38:17 – 00:02:43:01 Bunny You don’t want to be ten steps ahead of your partner.
00:02:43:03 – 00:02:46:24 Tom And you got to make sure that you both like without.
00:02:46:24 – 00:02:48:00 Bunny Your partner knowing.
00:02:48:02 – 00:03:24:21 Tom Without your partner know. Yeah. Oh, our previous video, we talked about our boundaries and, we started off with a book of rules of what we couldn’t do. And then we created boundaries based on our actual real life experiences and activities because we talked about each scenario. Even still today, 20 some years later, almost 30 years later, we talk about every scenario as if it were a first time scenario.
00:03:24:21 – 00:03:57:15 Tom And we want to know what we liked about it, what we could have done better. Yeah, to make it even more fun. But and then not a requirement is if there was anything we did not like about the scenario, we would either discuss it out our adopt a boundary about it. One of our boundaries is, is we keep an eye on each other during the whole socializing to play all the time.
00:03:57:19 – 00:04:17:17 Tom Not that we’re watching each other like a hawk. We’re watching to make sure that we’re all on the same page. We’re having a good time. If someone’s not having a good time, we can pick up the cues. That goes for either me or me, our buddy. I won’t be here, buddy. So.
00:04:17:24 – 00:04:31:10 Bunny And and that even that even goes for the other couple. If if I’m seeing something that, you know, one of them isn’t feeling it or feeling clicky, I will even say, hey, is everything okay?
00:04:31:13 – 00:04:56:23 Tom I’ve seen buddy, I’m struggling. And Bonnie’s called the wife over because we we all know each other’s buttons to push. And there are times of emergency where somebody is trying their best, but they’re not just making the grade. And sometimes it’s the spouse that gets them over.
00:04:56:25 – 00:04:59:17 Bunny Yeah. Absolutely. And I’ve done it for Tom before many.
00:04:59:17 – 00:05:00:16 Tom Many times, many.
00:05:00:16 – 00:05:06:17 Bunny Many times I’d be like hold on let me, let me help you here. You know, let let’s get him back to where he needs to be.
00:05:06:19 – 00:05:30:24 Tom Well, because I like with any new people, they don’t know my buttons and therefore I may not really care for what they’re doing to me. And then finally, I’ll say, hold on, let me show you a couple things. Not that we the whole point of the pineapple lifestyle is to experience different types of, experiences.
00:05:30:26 – 00:05:31:13 Bunny Right?
00:05:31:13 – 00:05:36:11 Tom And then hopefully we’ll be that, lead off of that and bring it home with us.
00:05:36:12 – 00:05:49:01 Bunny But we also know that, that when guys aren’t feeling it, that, it tends to. Deter the, the play situation a little bit. So sometimes you need help.
00:05:49:08 – 00:06:14:11 Tom So one thing that buddy’s been getting a lot of comments on, I haven’t gotten on, but they’ve been coming to funny is a lot of frustrations where their spouse is more into to the other person and not caring about their feelings. Are there at the time level? Yes. Of security.
00:06:14:11 – 00:06:15:08 Bunny Correct.
00:06:15:10 – 00:06:16:11 Tom Or safe space?
00:06:16:11 – 00:06:16:22 Bunny Yeah.
00:06:16:22 – 00:06:19:10 Tom So like I love using that word.
00:06:19:10 – 00:06:40:26 Bunny Now this is and I actually have seen it. Yes, I seen it just recently on, on a chat where, one of the, spouses was texting back and forth too much. And even though he was asked to stop, even though he was asked to stop, he still hasn’t.
00:06:40:28 – 00:06:44:14 Tom And that is that the one where they have a group chat?
00:06:44:18 – 00:06:45:03 Bunny No.
00:06:45:03 – 00:07:11:11 Tom Oh, so I saw one today where they have a four way group chat. Our three way group chat. Because it’s, single female and the husband is they were private messaging at first, and then when they started to make plans to meet up, they then added his wife into a group chat. And so that way she was aware.
00:07:11:11 – 00:07:31:12 Tom So that way, when the husband went out on a date, she was aware of all the plans and everything. Then she found out that they were texting the husband and the other girl, still privately and excluding her. Now we would have a major issue. Oh yeah, one of us did that with the other.
00:07:31:14 – 00:07:36:28 Bunny And and for me, I mean, for me, that’s just another form of cheating. And I.
00:07:37:04 – 00:07:38:16 Tom Well, in our eyes.
00:07:38:18 – 00:07:43:29 Bunny Because it’s a mentally. It doesn’t cheating doesn’t have to just be physical.
00:07:44:02 – 00:07:45:03 Tom Right.
00:07:45:05 – 00:08:02:00 Bunny So and I am seeing the lot in and it’s not people that have been in this life for a long time. It’s most of the people that are just starting because they’re so excited and they’re, they’re jumping in with both feet and they’re forgetting that they have a partner with them.
00:08:02:03 – 00:08:03:13 Tom Right.
00:08:03:15 – 00:08:08:29 Bunny So they’re like going forward and then they’re like, oh, crap, I pissed off my partner.
00:08:09:06 – 00:08:38:19 Tom Well, without saying any names, we we seen it happening at hedonism with a couple where they weren’t even together. The female brought the guy and the guy was just bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam bam. And it kind of created a wedge because she didn’t feel included in any of his stuff. So, I think she brought the wrong person.
00:08:38:24 – 00:08:40:25 Bunny Oh, and that happens. That happens. So he’s a.
00:08:40:25 – 00:08:41:23 Tom Nice enough guy.
00:08:41:23 – 00:08:54:25 Bunny But but but the fact is, is if you’re married or you have a spouse or a partner or anything, you need to include them in your train of thought.
00:08:54:25 – 00:08:55:13 Tom Right?
00:08:55:18 – 00:09:06:14 Bunny So I always, you know, the best thing is, is to talk about scenarios like, if you’re going out to a club, kind of think about what might could possibly happen.
00:09:06:19 – 00:09:27:14 Tom I mean, you don’t have to overthink it. No, I always say go to the club with the anticipation of nothing’s going to happen except just you and your wife or you and your husband, depending on who’s watching this video, just going and having a good time with no expectations. And if something happens, be prepared.
00:09:27:17 – 00:09:43:12 Bunny But that’s where I’m saying I know you need to discuss those scenarios. You say we’re going to go have a good time, but if this happens, do we want to go forward, right? How far do we want to go? You need to have those already kind of in your little guideline.
00:09:43:13 – 00:10:00:19 Tom I know, like, if a single hour couple, What are the signals if we’re not interested and one of us isn’t interested? I mean, always be aware of your partner’s feelings before anybody else’s, right?
00:10:00:19 – 00:10:31:07 Bunny So one of the scenarios that I had is, there was, a for some going on and every and three of them seem to be having a good time. And the one was just kind of standing out on the outside because he didn’t really know how far it would go and how far he could go. And his wife was having a great time, and then he decided to have intercourse with the other female.
00:10:31:07 – 00:10:32:23 Bunny And his wife freaked.
00:10:32:23 – 00:10:33:13 Tom Freaked.
00:10:33:16 – 00:10:34:16 Bunny Freaked.
00:10:34:19 – 00:10:34:27 Tom Out.
00:10:35:03 – 00:10:45:20 Bunny So she was like, no, you were not supposed to do that, right? It was. And it was basically implied it was going to be all about her. But he didn’t know that.
00:10:45:22 – 00:10:48:19 Tom Well, I mean, I want it to be all about you, but I want to be included.
00:10:48:22 – 00:10:55:17 Bunny I know, I know, but two days later, she still was not speaking to him. Wow.
00:10:55:19 – 00:11:29:14 Tom And with that, I and I was telling Barney, you know, the a lot of people do videos TikToks podcast that the pineapple world is less divorces than any other field or any other lifestyle. But first off, there are no statistics. Not one single statistic out there goes specifically out pineapple people. Did you get divorce? Yeah. Okay. Then boom, right?
00:11:29:22 – 00:11:30:16 Tom No, seriously.
00:11:30:16 – 00:11:31:05 Bunny I know, I know.
00:11:31:06 – 00:11:57:01 Tom They claim that they know these statistics out there and there are none. So the fact is, is we ran a club for 20 years. We saw a lot of divorces. Was it because of the lifestyle? Who knows? Who cares? The fact this is we’re thinking that if they did get a divorce, a lot of it was probably just they couldn’t communicate with each other.
00:11:57:03 – 00:12:09:25 Bunny That’s exactly what it was. Could they even, you know, he was like, every day, come to me and talk to me. And I’m like, you need to talk to her. She’s not talking to me. Well, that’s part of the problem. Because if.
00:12:10:02 – 00:12:11:09 Tom You’re huge problem.
00:12:11:09 – 00:12:18:04 Bunny If you’re pissed off at your spouse or your partner, you need to communicate, not just sit there and.
00:12:18:06 – 00:12:26:02 Tom And guys, take this as a hint. Don’t get so pissed off. You leave your wife at a resort or no by herself.
00:12:26:02 – 00:12:26:22 Bunny Oh my god.
00:12:26:22 – 00:12:46:06 Tom Because revenge is real. It’s big. We’ve seen guys get pissed off at their girl leave thinking they’re going to be all macho, and she’s going to come running. Hell no. We seen the girl bang the entire club. And then go home and tell him all about how he screwed up.
00:12:46:08 – 00:12:47:02 Bunny Yeah. And then.
00:12:47:02 – 00:12:48:04 Tom They’re divorced.
00:12:48:06 – 00:12:49:26 Bunny Yeah.
00:12:49:28 – 00:12:54:27 Tom I’m not laughing about the divorce. I’m not saying it’s just part of life.
00:12:54:29 – 00:12:58:26 Bunny Well obviously if he left her at the club he left her before.
00:12:59:04 – 00:13:24:04 Tom Right. And also be careful about fantasies of like having your wife do all these guys, because sometimes the wife can reset you. In the beginning she might be submissive. It might be kind of for it worse. Yeah.
00:13:24:07 – 00:13:31:14 Bunny But but if your partner says, hey I don’t like this or I don’t want to do this again.
00:13:31:16 – 00:13:33:29 Tom Everything don’t stop until you talk about it.
00:13:34:00 – 00:13:42:01 Bunny Right. Don’t try to convince. Don’t try to push the subject, especially that night or that weekend.
00:13:42:03 – 00:13:44:26 Tom Sorry, I’m looking for our dog.
00:13:44:29 – 00:13:55:21 Bunny If somebody says that they don’t like something now, it’s not the time to push it. Now. Now is the time to stop it. And we can revisit that later. Go home.
00:13:55:24 – 00:14:11:14 Tom Yeah, sleep on it. I mean, if you’re, It’s kind of like that drunk person who wants to apologize and become besties again five seconds after a huge argument, right? It’s not the time or place.
00:14:11:16 – 00:14:45:18 Bunny There are certain scenarios that, yeah, definitely need a little bit of talking out. Need it more than ten minutes sometimes. Yeah. You can be pissed off at each other for quite a while. Right? And don’t don’t let extracurricular or fun time in come in between your yourselves and you know and that was the other thing is I’m hearing a lot in it’s both from male and female that their partner is paying more attention to their play partner than they are.
00:14:45:20 – 00:14:50:05 Tom I have seen that. And,
00:14:50:07 – 00:15:12:00 Bunny It’s almost like they come in and they’re like, oh, there’s my friend, and they’re like, gone, right? And they don’t pay attention. They don’t check in on their on their partner to make sure that they’re okay or they’re having a good time and they’re lovey dovey over here. And their partners like this. No. Read that body language. If that’s something that you don’t want.
00:15:12:00 – 00:15:27:22 Bunny Sorry, I talk with my hands. If that’s something that makes you feel comfortable, you need to let your partner know. And if your partner says this is making me feel uncomfortable, then you need to discuss it, not not just let it roll. Roll off of you.
00:15:27:27 – 00:15:31:24 Tom No, no, I, I totally I’m I’m hearing you.
00:15:31:27 – 00:15:36:00 Bunny Because you because we’ve seen it. We’ve seen it a lot.
00:15:36:02 – 00:16:04:21 Tom And I just, I, just me and Bunny have always been able to communicate. And communication is the key to a successful marriage. Our success a successful time in the pineapple world. Communication is important in life in general. If you can’t, if you cannot openly talk about everything with your spouse. I don’t have any words.
00:16:04:24 – 00:16:05:04 Bunny No.
00:16:05:09 – 00:16:12:09 Tom No, I mean, I don’t have any words of encouragement because my encouragement is for you to communicate with your spouse.
00:16:12:11 – 00:16:28:23 Bunny Absolutely. And communication also means body language. You’ve got to be able to read your partner to write, if there might be a scenario where they’re gagged and you can’t say anything.
00:16:28:25 – 00:16:31:07 Tom But it’s just, how have you been? Yeah.
00:16:31:10 – 00:16:43:03 Bunny No, no, no. You know that that would not happen. You are going in the other night. I know I’m going in the other night. I have a bad gag to.
00:16:43:06 – 00:16:44:13 Tom Spit on that thing.
00:16:44:15 – 00:16:52:24 Bunny But no, that could be a situation like with Tom, his death. So he’s got to constantly be watching.
00:16:52:25 – 00:16:55:21 Tom I do, because I take my hearing aids out.
00:16:55:24 – 00:17:01:01 Bunny And sometimes if he doesn’t get this, like, he doesn’t understand that, I’m like.
00:17:01:04 – 00:17:03:26 Tom I.
00:17:03:28 – 00:17:29:29 Bunny But no, you you know your partner well enough that you know when by looking at body language, by looking at expressions that they’re not comfortable and that’s when you need to pay attention. And you need to determine, especially for the ones that are guilty of giving the play partner way much more attention than their other partner. You need to reevaluate if that’s what you really want.
00:17:30:01 – 00:17:34:05 Bunny Because you keep pushing that level, you’re going to end up in the hole or.
00:17:34:07 – 00:17:36:23 Tom I’m just letting money talk. This is our topic.
00:17:36:27 – 00:17:41:03 Bunny This is my topic. I’m not used to just letting money talk.
00:17:41:05 – 00:17:45:26 Tom I know I’m usually the one talking, but I’m just letting you free flow on this one.
00:17:46:02 – 00:17:52:20 Bunny Yeah, because I just look at my. It’s like to see the hamster and I’m like, you’re going to fall asleep or no, no, no, no.
00:17:52:20 – 00:18:15:02 Tom I, I’m actually intrigued because you wanted to talk about this topic because like I said, people don’t approach me on that stuff. They approached Bunny because she’s a female and they feel less threatened or they think, I’m going to charge. I mean, I don’t charge anybody, but me and Bunny are always willing to help everybody. We don’t want to see anyone break up or.
00:18:15:08 – 00:18:16:02 Bunny You know, have a.
00:18:16:02 – 00:18:20:01 Tom Divorce. But we also don’t want to see somebody ruin a marriage either.
00:18:20:07 – 00:18:21:12 Bunny No, absolutely.
00:18:21:12 – 00:18:45:26 Tom Not, ma’am, but we are 38 years married. 39 years together. We were always told in the pineapple world that it would break us up. We’d be jealous. And yeah, we’ve had our share of jealousies and everything. We just talk, we communicate. I mean, I just can’t express it enough. That communication.
00:18:45:28 – 00:18:47:07 Bunny You know,
00:18:47:10 – 00:18:48:09 Tom I had to get that word out.
00:18:48:10 – 00:19:14:27 Bunny Yes, yes, I was talking to somebody, last October, and, I was talking to another gentleman, and, and we were talking about that same scenario, and I said, I said, you know, Tom and I have been together 38 years, and I still get jealous. And he goes, do you get jealous or do you get envious? And I’m like, excuse me?
00:19:15:00 – 00:19:24:13 Bunny He’s like, are you jealous that he’s really having a good time? Or are you envious that he’s having a good time and you’re not?
00:19:32:04 – 00:19:39:06 Bunny So so yeah, you got to think is a jealous or is envious. And that’s when I say, fine, I’m going to take my ball and go home.
00:19:39:06 – 00:19:43:23 Tom Yep. And she takes me home.
00:19:43:25 – 00:20:06:07 Bunny But I was like, yeah you’re that it that I was like after all these years? I said, you know what? That kind of slapped me in the head. That was like a an eye opener because, yeah, your absolutely right. And he goes, because of the fact is you’re not jealous. You’re still having a good time, but you’re envious because you know what she’s getting and that you like getting that.
00:20:06:12 – 00:20:07:23 Bunny And you’re not right now.
00:20:07:25 – 00:20:10:18 Tom I’ll say that’s true.
00:20:10:20 – 00:20:12:02 Bunny Right? Yeah.
00:20:12:04 – 00:20:15:06 Tom Yeah, I’ll say that. That’s 1,000% true.
00:20:15:25 – 00:20:33:11 Tom Because you know when you, when you go meet up with people whether it’s single a couple, you don’t know what you’re going to get until you’re right. I mean these pictures with Coke cans and remote controls, you don’t know if it’s the tiny remote or the.
00:20:33:13 – 00:20:35:08 Bunny Big, big remote.
00:20:35:11 – 00:21:04:23 Tom You don’t know if it’s the little six ounce cans of soda or the 12 ounce cans or the the 16. But it’s just, I mean, yeah. I, I totally get that. I mean, I, I’ve been with females where they are more pillow princesses. Yes. And so I’ll use the word envious. I’m envious that the other guy has you and I am.
00:21:04:25 – 00:21:08:20 Bunny Trying to do everything under the sun to help.
00:21:08:22 – 00:21:12:19 Tom Yeah, I guess I feel neglected.
00:21:12:21 – 00:21:13:07 Bunny See?
00:21:13:12 – 00:21:13:25 Tom See?
00:21:13:27 – 00:21:14:19 Bunny Yeah, yeah.
00:21:14:20 – 00:21:15:25 Tom So I get it.
00:21:15:28 – 00:21:22:20 Bunny Yeah, but that was an eye opener. I’m like, whoa, okay. That was that was a good one that he brought up.
00:21:22:23 – 00:21:25:13 Tom So you’re no longer jealous. You’re just envious.
00:21:25:16 – 00:21:35:13 Bunny Yes, absolutely. But I think if Tom went out on a date, I, I would be so jealous.
00:21:35:14 – 00:21:37:00 Tom Oh, you’d be a stalker.
00:21:37:03 – 00:21:37:16 Bunny I think.
00:21:37:18 – 00:21:39:09 Tom Following us and.
00:21:39:12 – 00:21:40:24 Bunny That is way beyond.
00:21:40:24 – 00:21:45:16 Tom I look over my shoulder to be tucked down, looking at. Yeah. No, that would be funny.
00:21:45:19 – 00:21:49:15 Bunny I would yeah, that’s way beyond my comfort zone.
00:21:49:17 – 00:22:13:18 Tom But yeah, we see, it happens all the time. I mean, a lot of events, even people were close with we we never say anything because it’s not our place unless they ask us. Because we don’t interject ourselves into other people’s lives. Except for here on video. And you’re willing you’re able to hit stop or close out the window.
00:22:13:18 – 00:22:41:13 Tom You don’t have to watch us or listen to us, but we see a lot of people where they put a lot more focus on their play partner than they do their own spouse. We just seen a, couple of events ago, and a whole like, dating scenario where, I mean, me, I’m funny after 39 years, we want to be this close to each other.
00:22:41:13 – 00:22:57:28 Tom We work together, we live together. We are this close together, believe it or not, 23 to 24 hours a day, every day, seven days a week, all year long. We’re really not apart, and we prefer not to be.
00:22:58:03 – 00:23:01:08 Bunny The only time we’re part is when we’re in the restroom.
00:23:01:10 – 00:23:35:15 Tom That’s the only time we’re apart. But we’re still within yelling range. Yeah, but, I, I couldn’t if we are. I mean, if we’re friends with another couple. Yeah, we’re totally good. Don’t don’t take it out of context that we can pal around and hang on to the other person and do fun stuff, but if it comes down to just intimately holding hands, are acting like you’re the couple and not.
00:23:35:17 – 00:23:49:07 Tom Yeah, me and Bonnie, that that’s just a different scenario for us. But we have a lot of friends where we can paddle around with each other, and we just don’t. We don’t get envious. Whoa, whoa. Going rooster block each other. No problem.
00:23:49:09 – 00:24:03:09 Bunny Yep. Absolutely. But yeah. So that’s just the biggest thing is keep your eyes open, keep your mind open and keep keep an eye on your partner too. And make sure that they’re within the loop.
00:24:03:09 – 00:24:52:10 Tom And and people can lose interest in each other if you’re not showing, the other one the attention that they. Oh that they deserve or need. I was just telling somebody and I know where I talked about the divorcing. We have an album in our Facebook and we had 109 couples and people whenever they say, oh yeah, the divorce rate is so low in the lifestyle because it’s statistically proven, because you can communicate that no, divorcing emotions can also create huge issues, because when you have an emotional attachment, someone else that your spouse can’t compete with.
00:24:52:12 – 00:25:12:16 Tom Correct. But I go, I went, I I’ll pull up that photo album and I like see these couples see these couples, they look happy, right? They’re like yeah, yeah, yeah. All 75% of our divorce. 75%. And like I said earlier we don’t know if it’s because of the lifestyle and it could be any number of reasons.
00:25:12:21 – 00:25:26:15 Tom But it probably all boils down to a common denominator of lack of feeling. The other ones are like a lack of interest or no communication, passion or no sexual desires or.
00:25:28:07 – 00:25:43:10 Tom And and at 39 years, we still think that you should be desiring each other sexually, as you did when you were dating. Because when you were dating, the focus, honestly, was to get laid right?
00:25:43:13 – 00:25:44:06 Bunny Exactly.
00:25:44:06 – 00:25:59:29 Tom It was to find your soulmate. It was to find a compatibility factor. That’s where I never understood. No sex before marriage. Because then you’re kind of stuck. And there’s a lot of divorces. Are that because.
00:26:00:03 – 00:26:00:22 Bunny Oh, yeah.
00:26:00:24 – 00:26:08:24 Tom They didn’t measure up to each other’s, what they thought would be like.
00:26:08:26 – 00:26:12:12 Bunny No, I, I completely get that. Yeah I completely.
00:26:12:12 – 00:26:41:02 Tom Get that the whole hot wife thing, it works for some people and I, we’ve seen it not work for a lot of people. So hot wife thing is something we would never recommend. If someone does it that’s fine. We have no issues with it. But we would never try to talk anyone into it, nor would we recommend it, because I don’t think a lot of people could handle that scenario well.
00:26:41:02 – 00:26:56:05 Bunny And the fact is, is if, you if you really think that your wife wants to do it, then you really need to make sure that she really wants to do it. Because we met some men and he was just a narcissist, and he basically forced her to do it.
00:26:56:06 – 00:26:59:22 Tom Yes. And I mean, he was literally calling guys.
00:26:59:22 – 00:27:01:06 Bunny And she.
00:27:01:06 – 00:27:15:17 Tom And he even asked us because we were meeting them. And next thing you know, he’s like, hey, do you mind if I have a couple singles come over and nail or why, why you guys are here? And I’m like, no, dude, we’re out of here.
00:27:15:18 – 00:27:19:09 Bunny He got off on it. She hated it. Yeah, she she.
00:27:19:12 – 00:27:23:29 Tom Tries to take her out of there and I’m like, I didn’t know what to do in that scenario.
00:27:24:04 – 00:27:46:21 Bunny She said, I am leaving him, I feel used I don’t want to do this. So you’ve got to make sure you’re both on the same level. Yeah. And if think I’m like, I just can’t reiterate the fact of the feelings change. If you don’t want to do it, then you need to stand up and say, I don’t like this, I don’t want to do this anymore.
00:27:46:24 – 00:27:52:11 Bunny And then your partner should respect you in figure things out.
00:27:52:12 – 00:28:21:19 Tom Well, the whole thing about the, pineapple world is compromises. Somebody has a fantasy and it’s, I mean, hopefully you can let your spouse live out their fantasies. That’s the whole, point of including other people into your life because some fantasies require more than one person and yes, a person not willing to do things that your spouse isn’t willing to do.
00:28:21:19 – 00:28:31:05 Bunny Well, and also, two fantasies can be just in your head. In reality, is a good slap kick in the nuts.
00:28:31:07 – 00:28:54:27 Tom Now, we’ve seen people break up because they, one of them had all these wild fantasies and they came true and they couldn’t handle it. They wanted nothing to do with the other person, and it was their fantasies that backfired on them. And they were the ones disgusted with the other one for helping fulfill those fantasies. How messed up is that?
00:28:54:28 – 00:29:05:11 Bunny Oh yeah. Yeah. Let’s go back into the narcissist there. Yeah. But. So no. Yeah. It’s a very, very fine line. I think.
00:29:05:13 – 00:29:06:00 Tom I’m pulling up my.
00:29:06:00 – 00:29:18:00 Bunny Glasses. But not only is it that fine line, but like you say, it’s just that communication. You’ve got to communicate it. Just make this pineapple world fun. It’s fun as you can.
00:29:18:05 – 00:29:18:16 Tom If you’re.
00:29:18:16 – 00:29:20:04 Bunny Not. It’s supposed to be.
00:29:20:09 – 00:29:39:25 Tom Yeah. If you’re not having fun, if you if you can’t go out and without having something to do with someone else, it may come back to haunt you later. Like, remember that your spouse is the most important person like Tom.
00:29:39:25 – 00:30:07:10 Bunny And I say we are very, very social pineapple people. So for us it’s just a matter of going out, having fun, flirting, harmlessly, flirting. If it leads to something, then that’s great. If not, then we’ve value a friendship. We are now part of the community. Well, we’re not having. I mean, we’re having fun, but we’re not meeting the people that we want to meet.
00:30:07:13 – 00:30:14:20 Bunny So now we’re looking for pineapple first. Yeah. So we can go out and have fun with people. We like to have fun with.
00:30:14:21 – 00:30:16:15 Tom Pineapple people are just more fun to be.
00:30:16:18 – 00:30:33:08 Bunny They are much more fun to be around. You don’t have to worry about. You don’t have to worry about, offending somebody because you’re wearing a too low kind of a shirt or. Or you can go on a Jeep ride with wearing them side boob shirt without.
00:30:33:10 – 00:30:33:28 Tom Without no.
00:30:33:28 – 00:30:36:10 Bunny Bra with a right. Exactly.
00:30:36:10 – 00:31:05:23 Tom No. It’s true, because, I just put up a thing, because we’re going to go to cheap and base and, and, Pigeon Forge and, August. Yep. And it’s going to be all through Pigeon Forge, Gatlinburg. And this last year there was like 50,000 shapes star expecting more this year they say to go a mile. It might take you an hour to two hours because it’s just it’s a slow crawl and we’re looking forward to that.
00:31:06:01 – 00:31:28:07 Tom So I and all these people are posting, like, we have a solid black tie, so they’re doing a black T meet up and they’re going to take a big picture. All the black tips I did. You see the pink Jeep meet up? I didn’t realize there were hundreds of them. And there’s just a big picture with it.
00:31:28:07 – 00:31:32:00 Tom Looks like a thousand pink jeeps all in one picture.
00:31:32:01 – 00:31:35:07 Bunny I might have to be in a gray jeep next year.
00:31:35:09 – 00:31:36:25 Tom A gray t.
00:31:36:28 – 00:31:41:16 Bunny Told you if I. If I get a Jeep, what I’m doing with it.
00:31:41:18 – 00:31:43:15 Tom What are you doing with it?
00:31:43:17 – 00:31:45:01 Bunny Putting thumper on it.
00:31:45:01 – 00:32:13:17 Tom Oh. So, there there were people about the red jeeps and white, every jeep color. And then somebody goes, is there going to be a singles meet up? And I thought, well, that’s a great idea, because mostly it’s a lot of it’s going to be families. So I found if you’re familiar or not on the Jeep, they have trail badges and you earn them.
00:32:13:22 – 00:32:39:25 Tom But there was, an upside down pineapple with horns and a tail and it just says plays well with the others. 4×4. And I posted that I didn’t think it was going to get approved because this is a very family friendly Facebook group. And it two weeks later, all of a sudden it popped up, approved. I was like, oh my God, there’s like seven, almost 18,000 profiles in here.
00:32:39:28 – 00:33:10:28 Tom I’m like, I am either going to get slaughtered or so immediately I got 150 either likes hearts are laughing emojis. I got a couple of angry emojis. I got three comments, that were negative. One is, really this community has dole out those people in it and I’m thinking, you know, look around at all your friends, family, coworkers, people you sit next to in church.
00:33:11:00 – 00:33:48:22 Tom You probably know pineapple people and not realize it because we don’t just come out, we know how to act well. Most of us know how to act normal. Yeah. And, social environment. A lot of the comments are pretty good and people are sharing it. People are tagging it, and there’s, vendor who’s going to be selling little cheat badges, and they have one that says, upside down pineapple, if you know, you know, and they’re like 25 bucks, I’m like, I might have to buy one.
00:33:48:22 – 00:34:10:04 Tom I don’t want to put it on my Jeep, but, I just thought to support that and I was talking to her. She’s not in the lifestyle, but I committed her for producing stuff that would be promotable or sellable to other people that aren’t. Are not her demographic.
00:34:10:04 – 00:34:10:16 Bunny Correct?
00:34:10:19 – 00:34:23:24 Tom Mostly the coins are challenge. Coins are military, police, firemen, first responders. So it’s kind of cool to see an actual, real, bona fide upside down pineapple.
00:34:23:26 – 00:34:25:05 Bunny Exactly.
00:34:25:07 – 00:34:57:04 Tom Badge. So, we’ll get that. But I was talking to her, and I was telling her, I said, you know, probably 20% of that group is in the pineapple lifestyle somehow. Because in California, they did a study, the local news, and they went around surveying people. And it came out that 1 in 4 couples admitted to at least trying something in the pineapple world one time.
00:34:57:06 – 00:35:08:07 Tom They didn’t ask any father. So that meant if you walk your neighborhood and count 100 houses, 25 possibly could be pineapple people.
00:35:08:07 – 00:35:08:18 Bunny Yep.
00:35:08:21 – 00:35:20:03 Tom You go to your work, you got 100 people that work in your office. 25 could be pineapple people. I know if you’re a police officer, it’s probably 85%.
00:35:20:05 – 00:35:21:02 Bunny School teacher, a.
00:35:21:02 – 00:35:38:18 Tom School teachers, nurses. But I mean, different lines of work are going to accumulate that 25% down. But that also goes for churches. I mean, the the moral majority aren’t so moral when they keep a secret like this.
00:35:38:21 – 00:35:49:11 Bunny Did you see the the one going around now that there was some type of a list and it says the most swingers per capita is Pennsylvania?
00:35:49:12 – 00:35:55:16 Tom Oh, I the one that say that. Yeah. And well, but they didn’t even put California on there.
00:35:55:16 – 00:35:55:29 Bunny No.
00:35:55:29 – 00:36:19:08 Tom So they’re skewed I mean, and I even post I even wrote to you that you could tell they were non pineapple people who did it just by the way. They were a few things. They, they were very naive or trying to be just a plain where someone like us would have wrote the list and yeah, got a little more definitive on it.
00:36:19:10 – 00:36:41:01 Tom But when I told this girl who is going to be selling these batches about the pineapple world, she goes, oh my God. My friend basically said word for word, what? You just said that there’s going to be 20% of this group that would buy that batch and stuff like that. They might not put it on their cheap, but they might keep it at home.
00:36:41:04 – 00:37:06:01 Tom We want to make a pact for with different cheap batches, and that would be one of them. And then she asked me to take it off, because I did promote it, that she was going to be selling them. So she must have gotten a little pushback. And, you know, I don’t I don’t, disagree with her wanting, me to know my post because I don’t want anyone to be dark.
00:37:06:03 – 00:37:06:16 Bunny No.
00:37:06:16 – 00:37:08:28 Tom And she wasn’t even in the pineapple.
00:37:08:28 – 00:37:33:11 Bunny And that’s what I disagree with, because everybody has a right to their own business. Everybody has a right to make money, whether, it’s selling that or selling a set of tires. Right. And that’s where I just get so frustrated with people out there in the community that are so hateful towards another group of individuals.
00:37:33:11 – 00:37:42:17 Tom Yeah. And that group of individuals, they just have a stigma in their head about that, group of individuals.
00:37:42:17 – 00:37:42:28 Bunny Right.
00:37:43:01 – 00:37:52:25 Tom But the fact is that group of individuals is a more honest group. They’re more they they’re more caring about other people.
00:37:52:28 – 00:37:54:23 Bunny They’re the first ones to jump up.
00:37:54:27 – 00:37:58:00 Tom To paint our house in California.
00:37:58:02 – 00:37:58:21 Bunny Yeah.
00:37:58:24 – 00:38:14:22 Tom And we are just talking about it, man. But we’re going to paint it by ourselves. And we have like ten people. So, ready to work. I mean, not to socialize. They were pushed. Let’s do, let’s do one day start to finish prime, paint it.
00:38:14:24 – 00:38:33:12 Bunny And then when we moved to when we bought our house in California, we were moving 80 miles away and we didn’t know where are we going to put all of our stuff. And somebody just randomly called us, we made, maybe once or twice and, he’s like, I got this property, I’ve got this, I’ve got that.
00:38:33:12 – 00:38:36:11 Bunny You can. You’re more than welcome to park your trailers here.
00:38:36:13 – 00:38:37:01 Tom Yeah.
00:38:37:03 – 00:38:45:20 Bunny I mean, just out of the blue. So our community is so much more helpful and is so much more caring, I think, than most any of the other.
00:38:45:20 – 00:39:10:15 Tom And we don’t have no judgments. And that’s the difference between the pineapple world, where there are a lot of people that I know. We’re totally off topic because we’re done with the other topic. I think. But there’s a lot of people that go to pineapple clubs and events, even hedonists, there’s a lot of nudist, there’s a lot of people that want to wear their bottoms and no tops.
00:39:10:20 – 00:39:25:22 Tom There’s people that want to be naked, there’s people that want to play with others and that everyone gets along because, you know, if someone comes up and says, hey, do you want to play? All you guys says, no. Well, I’m not into that, but thank you. Take it as a compliment.
00:39:25:22 – 00:39:26:21 Bunny But it’s basically.
00:39:26:22 – 00:39:27:06 Tom Is,
00:39:27:09 – 00:39:37:27 Bunny We’re all in the same mindset of just want to have fun and meet people, right? And enjoy everybody’s.
00:39:37:29 – 00:39:52:10 Bunny Being around people and have fun. But socialize. Yeah. The socializing and, yeah, there’s people outside. They’re so closed minded that they won’t even think of anything beyond you’re having sex with somebody else.
00:39:52:13 – 00:40:08:08 Tom Right? And then that goes along with it. And I guess I will add into the topic of this. When we see people that focus on someone more than their own spouse, me and Bunny actually avoid both of them.
00:40:09:20 – 00:40:24:29 Tom Because we just don’t want drama. And most people in the pineapple world, they’re, they want to be drama free. And we, we want to have fun. We want to smile. We don’t want to be the shoulder that they’re always crying on or talking about.
00:40:25:00 – 00:40:30:22 Bunny Correct? Very correct. Yep. All right I think we’re done with this one.
00:40:30:22 – 00:40:31:23 Tom We are done.
00:40:31:24 – 00:40:33:09 Bunny We are done with you.
00:40:33:11 – 00:40:57:15 Tom We’re done with you today. So until next time, definitely follow us everywhere. Just search Google, Tom and Bunny all one word. Tom and boo and and y and book your next trip with Tom’s trips.com your leader in adult lifestyle travel and let us further let us show you a good time.
00:40:57:18 – 00:41:00:02 Bunny You got that right. We’ll see you.
00:41:00:02 – 00:41:02:00 Tom Soon. We’ll see you soon.
On this podcast we answer questions from our viewers about how we play in the Pineapple World aka The Lifestyle.  Sit back and enjoy as we open ourselves up and give personal details we normally reserve for people we are actually planning to play with!
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Tom
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Tom
Welcome to Tom and bunny.com. Here is another episode of our Opinions Mean Nothing and Pineapple World. But it might give you some guidance on helping you navigate this. I mean, wide open lifestyle.
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Bunny
It's so completely different than when we started. Yeah, so completely different.
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Tom
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Bunny
Of course.
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Tom
That is our motto.
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Bunny
That is, Will you look a little tropical later? I know.
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Tom
I know, our last video I was wearing.
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Bunny
yeah. Ray. Hawaii. You must have gone shopping.
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Tom
We must have gone. So I'm in a medium.
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Bunny
I know, I know a medium. Oh, wow.
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Tom
Don't be a hater.
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Bunny
You've never been a medium.
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Tom
Don't be a hater.
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Bunny
I know, right?
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Tom
I was going into double extra large.
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Bunny
I know, I know you were.
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Tom
I went from 238 pounds to. I'm now about 160. And oh I saw so on notice. Okay. Someone calling you who's calling.
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Bunny
Spam spam.
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Tom
Spam potential spam. So anyway we get we get asked a lot of questions. So this video we're going to focus on one of the questions that we get asked a lot. What is the question.
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Bunny
How do you play.
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Tom
And what's the meaning of that. How do we play.
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Bunny
Well they you know, we give a little more information. All right. So the in this our pineapple world has grown and expanded so much from what it did 20 years ago. Yes. And so many different people are seek other different options. Correct. So they actually asked how how do we approach it. and do we separate room, do we go on dates.
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Bunny
do we go out alone.
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Tom
So we when we first got into the pineapple world and we got into a lot longer a long time ago before the pineapples were even invented in this lifestyle.
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Bunny
Yes.
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Tom
I know some people want to believe that they came out in the 50s and it was a military thing. And we cannot establish that from anybody. That's over the I mean.
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Bunny
Even well into their 70s, 80, 80.
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Tom
90.
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Bunny
Yeah.
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Tom
We can't find anyone.
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Bunny
And yes, we do know people that old that are that had run clubs are still in the lifestyle.
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Tom
So we did a lot of talking when we first got into it. And one of our laundry list of rules that we narrowed down to, we what we do is we create and I will use the word rules, but it's not I don't know what a good word to use here is, but.
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Bunny
boundary.
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Tom
Boundaries. That's a great word. so we, we create boundaries based on previous experiences, meaning we found ourselves because we came into this with.
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Bunny
Page, like a book. you.
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Tom
Can't do this. You can't do that. You can't even look at someone too long. You can't have too much fun. there was just so many things that we were enjoying. Nothing. It was to the point where it wasn't even worth doing because we neither of us were having fun. Because we're too worried about breaking a boundary.
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Bunny
Absolutely.
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Tom
Are offending the other person are hurting the other person. The last thing we want to do is hurt each other.
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Bunny
And, and yes in the beginning we did break boundaries and in the night it didn't end well because we broke boundaries. And guess what. You have to go home. You have to discuss it, you have to talk it over and you got to work through it and either you continue on with that in the pineapple world or you step back.
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Tom
And so we eliminated all of our roles as we called them, back them. And we created boundaries of respect based on prior experiences. So how do we play when we are active with other people? Afterwards we come home. We actually discuss after every encounter. We still discuss every encounter, and we want to know what we liked about it, because the whole point of being in this is because we're having a great time and we we want to enjoy it.
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Tom
but the most important thing and it never is a requirement. But if there was something that we did not like, it didn't sit well. We felt the green eyed monster coming on. We discussed it more, and if it was something that was really, truly an issue, we would create a boundary based on that is go. Nothing else, just that scope.
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Tom
And later on we might even release that boundary because we've grown up.
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Tom
Yeah. And grown past.
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Bunny
That. Yeah.
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Tom
Because yeah everyone gets jealous in this lifestyle. So a couple of our boundaries is we prefer to play with couples.
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Bunny
Yes.
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Tom
We don't prefer to play with couples that only one plays. We want everyone active. We would prefer just to be wingman and friends. We could be friends with everybody. It doesn't matter. Well, not everybody. We who? We haven't.
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Bunny
Come new.
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Tom
We have encountered a few that they tested our limits and we couldn't. We didn't want to hang out with them.
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Bunny
They were way,
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Tom
Different than we were. So, same room. We we have we we've we've tried to separate play, but the whole point of us being in it is for us to have fun together. Now we get it, other people will play separately and everything, and that's perfectly fine. Some people get stage fright or they get, antsy because their spouses watching, or whatever.
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Tom
We actually prefer it because Bunny, I mean, knowing my history of Eddie since I was in my 20s, Bunny can cue in and see if I was struggling or not. If she wasn't there, I'd be on my own.
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Bunny
Yeah, yeah. And you're hearing.
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Tom
Am I hearing.
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Bunny
Because, with his hearing aids, he can't do any he doesn't play with his hearing aids. And because of the fact is you put your hands over his head and of course, he's going to start whistling. So he never, never does anything with his hearing aids in, in. Therefore, he was always afraid of hearing the word stop and not being able to hear it right now.
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Tom
I would just tell the female if, if I'm doing something that you don't want or like, or you're not enjoying, don't tell me. Just put your hand on my forehead and push me back. I will take offense to that. No, that's it's called, an unsaid body language.
00:08:18:22 - 00:08:19:27
Bunny
Well, I have to do it to him.
00:08:19:28 - 00:08:20:26
Tom
She does it to me.
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Bunny
Yeah, well, it's time to stop.
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Tom
She starts tapping me. Now, another boundary that we have, and we know a lot of couples like doing is the whole holding hands with the opposite person while they're out at dinner, sitting with the with the other person. Me and binding prefer to be together all the way up until any activity starts. We do not want to be part of the other people, because when we're out in public, we want to be seen as Tom and Bonnie.
00:09:02:24 - 00:09:09:12
Tom
it's nothing against anybody. It's just kind of our comfort zone, or at least my comfort zone.
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Bunny
Exactly. So we all, everybody does everything different and, and you know, we have had those couples say, well here Bonnie will sit here and I'm like, no, I won't. I mean, I sit with Tom and you've got it. If somebody does something and you're not on, come. If you're uncomfortable with you, just tell them, hey, no, no, no, no, I'm not going to do that.
00:09:32:22 - 00:09:34:08
Bunny
Right. you.
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Tom
Don't have to be so abrupt, Pike.
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Bunny
Funny was. I know. Well, I did, I.
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Tom
Know, but you don't have to be that abrupt. You could be polite and just say, well, I would rather preferably sit here.
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Bunny
Well, I do like that you don't.
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Tom
You're setting up a date. You're meeting someone for their first time, and they say, oh, buddy, I'll sit here. Oh, no, I will.
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Bunny
Nope.
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Tom
That's the way it came across to me. You can chime in and if you.
00:10:02:13 - 00:10:03:00
Bunny
Well, how.
00:10:03:00 - 00:10:05:05
Tom
Did that come across? I mean.
00:10:05:07 - 00:10:10:11
Bunny
I probably did. Come on. Like she's a bitch, but she's real.
00:10:10:11 - 00:10:11:14
Tom
Like she's really not, though.
00:10:11:15 - 00:10:21:17
Bunny
Maybe that's why the hookup has been slow down, but I actually did. We actually met this morning. Couple one time and and we chatted back and forth online.
00:10:21:17 - 00:10:36:07
Tom
Now we must put a little warning. You may or may not be the couple we're talking about. Just because it resonates or sounds familiar doesn't mean we're talking about you. But we might be talking about you. So just having all those out there.
00:10:36:09 - 00:10:38:09
Bunny
Because we get called out, you do, we.
00:10:38:10 - 00:10:47:11
Tom
Do we do get called out for talking about scenarios even when we don't mention the people's names, our location, they know we're talking about them and they'll message us.
00:10:47:11 - 00:10:48:10
Bunny
All right, so I know.
00:10:48:10 - 00:10:48:27
Tom
There you go.
00:10:48:27 - 00:11:15:14
Bunny
Sorry. I'm just going to say that we're going to an event across the country. And we had been chatting back and forth with this couple online, and everything seemed to be working out very, very well. we met them in the hotel the first day and they seemed really, really great. Well, then we go out for the evening and he just, like, turn turned into.
00:11:15:15 - 00:11:16:20
Bunny
He's going to control me.
00:11:16:23 - 00:11:17:25
Tom
Yeah. This.
00:11:18:02 - 00:11:19:20
Bunny
And he was like.
00:11:19:23 - 00:11:30:04
Tom
But he's her own person. She doesn't need to be dominated. Well not not like like verbally dominating.
00:11:30:05 - 00:11:33:16
Bunny
Well and if I'm going to answer to anybody, it's my husband.
00:11:33:18 - 00:11:34:22
Tom
Damn right.
00:11:34:24 - 00:11:36:26
Bunny
Damn right. And, you.
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Tom
Know, your.
00:11:37:06 - 00:11:40:05
Bunny
Place and he was like, literally.
00:11:40:11 - 00:11:44:01
Tom
I could see the people, like, what did he just say?
00:11:44:03 - 00:12:09:04
Bunny
At one point he was like, literally like turning me so no one else would, like, see me. It was almost like he should have just peed on my back so people would know that I was. Yeah. And then and then he didn't like the first bar. So Tom says, okay, well, we'll go somewhere else. Then we sit down in the second bar and he looks, I remember this, and he looks at me and he grabs my hand.
00:12:09:04 - 00:12:12:29
Bunny
He goes, we're leaving. And I'm like, grabs Bonnie's hand.
00:12:13:01 - 00:12:14:08
Tom
His wife's here.
00:12:14:09 - 00:12:17:13
Bunny
I go, no, I am not leaving.
00:12:17:15 - 00:12:19:15
Tom
We let him leave with his wife.
00:12:19:17 - 00:12:21:21
Bunny
I go, if you want to leave, you can leave.
00:12:21:25 - 00:12:22:18
Tom
We're fine.
00:12:22:18 - 00:12:28:14
Bunny
Here. We we like it. We're having a good time. You can leave. And they didn't. They never spoke to us. The rest of the.
00:12:28:16 - 00:12:30:22
Tom
I don't think the wife wanted to leave him.
00:12:30:25 - 00:12:59:29
Bunny
But which? Which was totally fine. Because, like Tom said, I'm my own person. I'm strong enough to tell somebody. No. Why? I don't like it. Right. but like I said, we are not in a Bdsm lifestyle whatsoever, Tom and I, I said, but really, if if you really watch this, I am so much more submissive. to Tom, but only to Tom, not to anybody else.
00:13:00:02 - 00:13:06:10
Bunny
Right? So, no, you've got it. You've got to set your boundaries for yourself and do what's comfortable for you.
00:13:06:11 - 00:13:12:20
Tom
Yeah. yeah, I that was I remember that when that was.
00:13:12:22 - 00:13:18:18
Bunny
Yeah. That that little date that he had planned last lasted less than an hour.
00:13:18:20 - 00:13:23:04
Tom
Yeah. After chatting. So that leads up. We chatted with them for a long time.
00:13:23:05 - 00:13:23:18
Bunny
We did.
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Tom
And we're not just pointing out this couple, this can go on with many other couples, and especially if you're new to this argument, if you've been in this for a while and you're frustrated or anything to build up, some people go, oh, we got to have a build up before we meet. No, because sometimes the expectation doesn't match.
00:13:46:04 - 00:14:11:21
Tom
Yes, the reality. So we would rather not sext. We would just rather meet people and keep any personal, stuff, fun time stuff at that moment. I mean, we could talk about what we're into because, yeah, some people may or may not be into what you're into.
00:14:11:22 - 00:14:26:14
Bunny
Yeah, you do have to discuss that. She's sound asleep at my feet. You do have to discuss stuff like that. But, But like Tom said, I'm not going to do anything with somebody else that I don't do with Tom. Right. So we're going to.
00:14:26:17 - 00:14:28:18
Tom
Well, that's not true.
00:14:28:21 - 00:14:30:29
Bunny
Well, no. Mean, because.
00:14:30:29 - 00:14:56:14
Tom
I am not even including interested in the Bdsm lifestyle. The fetish lifestyle. None of it. I'm okay with it. We're friends with a lot of people were we could hang out. We'll go to certain scenarios. Dungeons or fetish parties. We're fine with that. I just don't I don't want it on me and I don't want to put it on that somebody else.
00:14:56:19 - 00:14:58:29
Tom
So I'm more of a just a people watcher.
00:14:59:25 - 00:15:30:22
Tom
Bunny. She will get into it a little bit. Yeah. the since sensory play you're flogging stuff like that. Me personally, I don't even like Bunny. I, I don't do none of that stuff. So when we go to events, if there's somebody that is doing something and she finds it interesting, we'll go over and talk to them and they'll end up usually tying Bunny up and.
00:15:30:25 - 00:15:31:10
Bunny
Right.
00:15:31:14 - 00:15:43:17
Tom
Giving her the sensory play or the flogging. And she'll tell them light or hard and, that I and I'm perfectly fine with that, and she's perfectly fine with that.
00:15:43:17 - 00:15:52:28
Bunny
But you're right there with me watching. Correct. Now, it did happen one time that, Tom was called out of the room and I was like, I'm done.
00:15:53:01 - 00:16:18:17
Tom
Yeah. And I told her I talked to a friend of ours, and I said, I have to go to the office. They're calling me in the office. For some odd reason, I wasn't told why. it was an emergency, and I just told Bunny. I said, you're okay, you're safe. I have so-and-so keeping an eye on you. He's not going to let it go any farther than you want it to go.
00:16:18:21 - 00:16:31:09
Tom
And I go leave the room. Yeah, I was kind of pissed. In the office was six dudes and my boss trying to watch a YouTube video. My boss couldn't figure out how to get the speakers to work.
00:16:31:12 - 00:16:31:26
Bunny
It was murder.
00:16:31:28 - 00:16:43:05
Tom
Meanwhile, I'm like, I get it working. I like I got it going right by the time. Now. This all lasted 2.5 minutes. By the time I got back, but was already done and she wasn't interested in going back home.
00:16:43:07 - 00:17:14:03
Bunny
Because at that point my comfort zone was done. I was done right. So Tom is my comfort zone. And so therefore we like same room, same room. We liked we enjoy watching each other. Yep. some people don't. And that however you want to do it is however you want to do it. And the reason why I bring this up is because on social media now, everybody seems to be wanting to find a boyfriend or wanting to find a girlfriend.
00:17:14:05 - 00:17:25:16
Bunny
And a lot of people, they don't feel comfortable with that. Well, that's just those people's version of being a pineapple that doesn't have to mean that that's your version of it.
00:17:25:18 - 00:17:53:29
Tom
And we do not want to find a boyfriend or girlfriend or couples. That is monogamy with just us. Because, just to be upfront and honest, if a couple approaches you and says that they want to be monogamous with you and you agree to it, you're probably monogamous with them, and chances are they're probably not monogamous with you.
00:17:54:03 - 00:18:03:27
Tom
They're monogamous with you and probably six other couples. And none of you know about each other because they keep everything ultra secret and private.
00:18:03:27 - 00:18:09:11
Bunny
Well, there are there are some that they all live together. But if you don't live together.
00:18:09:14 - 00:18:15:26
Tom
And stuff like that. But I'm just saying we're not into them. What I was saying is we're not into the monogamous thing.
00:18:16:00 - 00:18:36:03
Bunny
I'm going to piss off a lot of people. Oh, Jesus. I was joking with Tom the other day, and I was doing something, and I was getting frustrated and, cleaning up something, and I looked at Tom and I go, you can have a girlfriend. He goes, what? I go as long as she cleans up.
00:18:36:06 - 00:18:38:11
Tom
Yeah, because Bunny was tired of sweeping them off.
00:18:38:16 - 00:18:47:21
Bunny
Oh, that's what it is. I yeah. My back. I have such a bad back. And sweeping and mopping will knock me down for three days. So I said as long as they come in and sweep.
00:18:47:21 - 00:19:00:22
Tom
So if you are a female that loves to sweep and mop and you're looking for a couple today, so long as you sweep them off our house, I finally want mine. So, Feijoo.
00:19:00:25 - 00:19:02:07
Bunny
I'll feed you. Yeah.
00:19:02:10 - 00:19:14:23
Tom
But he's a great cook. Just kidding. Wait, wait. That's another one of our boundaries. And we do not allow people to wake up in our bed.
00:19:14:29 - 00:19:15:09
Bunny
No.
00:19:15:09 - 00:19:39:02
Tom
And we do not wake up in their bed. Meaning, when playtime is over, we go to our room, we go home, we wherever. We just don't stay there. They don't stay there because we want a long time. We want private time. We want to be able to talk about the other couple without them.
00:19:39:02 - 00:19:40:12
Bunny
Being.
00:19:40:14 - 00:20:07:23
Tom
On either side of us, and not in a bad way. Just in just general context of how we felt about the evening. That is our dog and, so we did have one couple that it was their fantasy and we unfortunately declined. And we told them that we couldn't we didn't do it because we.
00:20:07:25 - 00:20:12:28
Bunny
They wanted to, sleep with us and cuddle and,
00:20:13:00 - 00:20:13:28
Tom
Oh, she has a sock.
00:20:14:01 - 00:20:17:06
Bunny
Yeah. I, I don't want to sleep with somebody.
00:20:17:06 - 00:20:19:20
Tom
I don't want to wake up with dragon breath.
00:20:19:23 - 00:20:20:02
Bunny
No.
00:20:20:06 - 00:20:21:29
Tom
Our bed head.
00:20:22:01 - 00:20:23:20
Bunny
Or passing gas.
00:20:23:27 - 00:20:26:06
Tom
Right. Hey, you don't do that.
00:20:26:09 - 00:20:28:20
Bunny
Or like, it's a our snoring.
00:20:28:25 - 00:20:44:05
Tom
No, it's just when we go to meet people, we dress up funny. Does our hair makeup worth a lot of cleavage? Dresses and pineapple necklaces, by the way. Partners. hi.com. You want a necklace like that?
00:20:44:07 - 00:20:52:27
Bunny
And, you know. And and it's funny too, because we have been in the pineapple world a long time. A long time, okay. And we all have.
00:20:53:04 - 00:20:55:15
Tom
Our upside down pineapples were.
00:20:55:15 - 00:21:09:20
Bunny
A thing. And we, like you say we all have our different play. We all have our little quirks. Tom. He could be naked in front of anybody. He'll be the first one naked. Yeah. When it comes time to getting ready, he wants privacy.
00:21:09:23 - 00:21:15:12
Tom
I do. I want my own bathroom. I want my own time. I it's just.
00:21:15:15 - 00:21:19:13
Bunny
When he comes out of the shower, all clean and everything, he doesn't want anybody else.
00:21:19:13 - 00:21:22:26
Tom
They're fine. I it's just a quirk.
00:21:22:26 - 00:21:24:13
Bunny
Yeah, yeah, it's.
00:21:24:13 - 00:21:25:08
Tom
A quirk of mine.
00:21:25:11 - 00:21:32:15
Bunny
You could tell he was never military, right? Never had to take a shower in gym class.
00:21:32:18 - 00:22:03:28
Tom
Now, we singles, we have played with both single females and single men. We typically won't. We do play in those scenarios. We don't have a really big friendship with them outside of play. We we had a couple different ones where they can call us, or we can call them and just say, hey, we just want to hook up.
00:22:04:01 - 00:22:24:03
Tom
We go meet them, hook up and go home. But outside of that, because we have seen a lot, not great things. I mean, there are a lot of singles that embrace the lifestyle, but then there's a lot of singles that want what the other people have.
00:22:24:03 - 00:22:41:23
Bunny
We actually have seen, and I'm going to say it, we've seen a lot of break ups from the break from singles or, you know, people having a boyfriend or girlfriend because when they were out on a date with that other person, the other person's in their ear, like.
00:22:41:23 - 00:23:18:05
Tom
I would, I would treat you much better than your husband or your wife or just we've heard it all. We've seen it all that it's just, boundary. We're not willing to cross at all. It took us a long time to even just allow play time with singles, let alone, have them, I mean, mine, funniest thing is, if you say anything to one of us and you got to have a lot of trust in your partner for this, it ends a friendship.
00:23:18:08 - 00:23:18:25
Bunny
Yes.
00:23:18:25 - 00:23:28:02
Tom
If you say anything negative about the other one of us. even if it's just constructive, if if it pretty much end a friendship.
00:23:28:05 - 00:23:28:19
Bunny
Absolutely.
00:23:28:19 - 00:23:30:20
Tom
Because we don't need that in our life.
00:23:30:23 - 00:24:02:20
Bunny
No. We keep all negativity out the the pineapple world for us. It is very consuming for us because we do work it. So we work in the lifestyle travel industry. We go to the events where we do the videos. We're completely consumed within this world. So therefore for us, we don't really plan anything. We're the we're the ones that you see at 11:00 at night and say, hey, you want to go?
00:24:02:20 - 00:24:04:05
Bunny
Oh yeah, let's go, let's go.
00:24:04:06 - 00:24:33:28
Tom
Because we've been working all night or, we've been hosting an event or anything, and we like to meet people where we are, what you call more social pineapples. there are different levels of pineapples. There are only social pineapples. They will never play with anybody, but they like to be around other pineapple people just because of the openness and the erotic nature.
00:24:34:00 - 00:24:51:06
Tom
There are people like us. We like to go meet at least five different couples, whether we're going to, play or not. It just gives us more people that we can mean. But we also know that we don't want to rooster block them.
00:24:51:08 - 00:24:51:21
Bunny
Know.
00:24:51:21 - 00:25:15:11
Tom
So if we know, there's no connection as far as that goes. And like I said, we can be a wingman. We can be friends with most anybody. We don't want to ruin their night. So we'll usually just say, hey, we're going to move on and we'll go meet another couple that thing is, at the end of the night, we met our five couples or three couples or singles.
00:25:15:11 - 00:25:26:10
Tom
Whatever. Whoever we talk to doesn't mean we have to play with anybody. We're just as content going home and having a great time by ourselves.
00:25:26:10 - 00:25:27:10
Bunny
Yes.
00:25:27:12 - 00:25:35:28
Tom
The whole play aspect, to us is extracurricular and just a little added fun, but, you.
00:25:36:03 - 00:25:42:12
Bunny
Know, a little wider. It's just a little to enhance, to have fun and to do something different.
00:25:42:16 - 00:26:07:27
Tom
Well, and I get it. I totally understand that people would come to our club. They would spend $50 $60 for a membership and then $90 to get in on the on the first night, the membership, which was a year, and then each party was either 80 or $90 to come in, but it was BYOB. Think about it. You're and we had a full buffet and people are like, oh no, it was all sanitary.
00:26:07:27 - 00:26:13:09
Tom
We were regulated by the health department. They would come in randomly during our parties and inspect.
00:26:13:09 - 00:26:16:08
Bunny
Us, and we were from California, so we had an A rating.
00:26:16:10 - 00:26:35:05
Tom
Or rating. So, and if you would think about it, a pineapple club or a stripper club, most people would be afraid to eat out. But we were so scrutinized it was very, clean. I forget where.
00:26:35:05 - 00:26:48:10
Bunny
It's gone, you are saying. But those a lot of those people would come in and they'd. I need a car. Some people would. Some people would just have a good time and enjoy each other. And if they hooked up, they hooked up and they were good.
00:26:48:12 - 00:27:17:06
Tom
Well, okay, that's where I was going then. People pay $90 to come in. I understand they might have kids at home. They work a lot. They only go out. Some people once a month and we never understood. I understand it, but we never understood it to the point where they would leave yelling at each other because they didn't hook up and they wasted all that money.
00:27:17:09 - 00:27:19:19
Tom
But yet they had a great time.
00:27:19:19 - 00:27:20:18
Bunny
Yeah, but they were all.
00:27:20:18 - 00:27:22:01
Tom
The way up until they.
00:27:22:01 - 00:27:24:18
Bunny
Left. But they would always blame it on each other.
00:27:24:19 - 00:27:49:04
Tom
They would blame each other like you weren't a great wing person or you you were ignoring the other person. Well, maybe that was a hit and a half that you need to move on to. Another couple are another single. If, like I always tell people we prefer couples, that's for people. There's a 75% chance nothing will happen and people will be like 75%.
00:27:49:05 - 00:28:06:25
Tom
Yeah, because if 25% meaning one person is not interested on our boundary, nothing happens. Correct? That includes if one person and the other couples not interested in one of us, or both of us or any of us, but the other one is it's done. We we just don't cross those.
00:28:06:25 - 00:28:26:24
Bunny
Lines, you know? And, and to be fair to yourself, you've got to have that respect for yourself too, that if it's just not working for you, if you're not feeling it, you've got it. You've got to tell your partner that right. you've got to let your partner know that that that it's it's not working for me.
00:28:26:24 - 00:28:27:29
Bunny
Let's move on.
00:28:27:29 - 00:28:49:11
Tom
You got I mean, when we. Okay. So how would we get out of situations is another big question we've always had. Let me I'm by any artist. Easy. Now we just say, hey, let's go meet this other couple or I've been wanting to meet this couple. We'll have nice meeting you. We'll. We'll talk to you later. Not cutting anything off for the future.
00:28:49:11 - 00:28:57:00
Tom
Just, It makes it easy out what we would do when we first got into it because we didn't know what to do.
00:28:57:05 - 00:28:57:16
Bunny
Right?
00:28:57:16 - 00:29:24:23
Tom
So we use the weather to our advantage. And we could either say, like, if we're not interested, well, let's just say we're interested because we're saying too much about not interested if we're interested in the other couple, we could say, man, it's pretty warm in here. Yeah, that means if I said it, that means I am interested in both House of the couple.
00:29:24:26 - 00:29:32:24
Tom
And then buddy would reply back with either. Yeah, it's like Phoenix, it's hot in Phoenix. That means.
00:29:32:27 - 00:29:33:08
Bunny
It's good.
00:29:33:12 - 00:29:56:04
Tom
If they're interested, we're interested. We can move forward that way. At least we knew our signal. But if she said, but it's freezing in Iowa, I. I knew she wasn't interested. And therefore then we would bow out and move on. And the couples never knew until we did a video and we talked about it and we got called out a couple times.
00:29:56:04 - 00:30:01:14
Bunny
Yeah, yes, we did it before we did. And we've had to. Yeah.
00:30:01:18 - 00:30:07:26
Tom
And they always say, you know, the best thing is to be upfront and honest and it's hard. It's you don't want to hurt people's feelings.
00:30:07:26 - 00:30:19:05
Bunny
No. You know, and it's funny because when we stopped using it was when we were in the middle of Palm Springs and, 110 degrees and.
00:30:20:12 - 00:30:23:07
Bunny
Tom was really having a good time.
00:30:23:07 - 00:30:24:19
Tom
We were in the hot tub.
00:30:24:22 - 00:30:26:23
Bunny
And Tom was really having a good time.
00:30:26:25 - 00:30:29:12
Tom
She was one of my fantasy girls.
00:30:29:12 - 00:30:35:03
Bunny
Yeah. See, this is what I was getting hot. I was getting this.
00:30:35:05 - 00:30:36:13
Tom
But he was watching us.
00:30:36:14 - 00:30:40:12
Bunny
He was watching you. I was trying to get.
00:30:40:14 - 00:30:41:11
Tom
A good looking guy, too.
00:30:41:13 - 00:30:51:26
Bunny
He was trying to get things going, but it just wasn't going to go there. No. And I kept trying. And it's one of the things you've gotta learn your your couple signals, you've got to learn each other cigarets and.
00:30:51:26 - 00:30:52:14
Tom
Alcohol.
00:30:52:16 - 00:30:58:16
Bunny
And alcohol and Tom wasn't catching anything. So I finally just Josh stands up.
00:30:58:18 - 00:31:02:12
Tom
Gets on the edge of the koozie and goes, what do you say?
00:31:02:14 - 00:31:06:28
Bunny
I'm leaving. It's freezing in here.
00:31:07:00 - 00:31:08:21
Tom
And it's 110 degrees.
00:31:08:24 - 00:31:14:14
Bunny
Outside in a Jacuzzi. Tom looked at her and goes, oh, I guess my.
00:31:14:16 - 00:31:22:28
Tom
Hand on forehead push her back, said, I gotta go. I'm not going to piss off the wife of all people.
00:31:23:01 - 00:31:23:20
Bunny
But see, we.
00:31:23:22 - 00:31:50:07
Tom
We ended up playing with the waiter. We did. What happened was, is they were fairly new, and he was very nervous. It wasn't that we learned it. We we talked to him later on when we actually played with him, and he had a lot to drink, and he was more embarrassed about his performance. So therefore it was easier to keep an arm's distance than it was to humiliate himself.
00:31:50:14 - 00:32:04:14
Tom
Because when we grew up in this pineapple world, it wasn't uncommon. If a guy couldn't perform that, the female would put him on blast in front of an entire club, and it sucked.
00:32:04:16 - 00:32:07:15
Bunny
It did. It sucked really bad.
00:32:07:17 - 00:32:11:02
Tom
Nowadays it's a little bit more politically correct.
00:32:11:04 - 00:32:34:20
Bunny
And people are because because people like us are coming forward and, you know, telling and, well, outing people like that, but telling people that it's a fact of life. Eddie, Eddie is very, very common. There's no reason that you have to live with it, because now I just talked to somebody and you can have things taken care of.
00:32:34:23 - 00:32:53:16
Bunny
But back then, nobody wanted to say anything. No one would say anything. And so when they would go back with somebody and they couldn't, achieve anything, then the other person would just like, don't go downstairs with him. He can't get it up. And it's like, you can't do that. You can't do that.
00:32:53:16 - 00:32:59:19
Tom
Right? And, you know, they say too much drinking inhibits the clubbing.
00:33:00:09 - 00:33:17:15
Tom
So, so that's another thing is we don't deal with drunks when we go out with somebody and they're just tying it on. It's a turn off for us. We we drink socially. We drink. I mean we used to be the drunks but we.
00:33:17:18 - 00:33:20:25
Bunny
But we always hooked up with people that were just as drunk.
00:33:20:25 - 00:33:38:22
Tom
Yeah. So it didn't really matter. But when we're more the sober ones now because of our jobs and everything, if somebody is too drunk will usually say, hey, let's meet up another time, because we're not not interested. We just aren't interested at that very moment.
00:33:38:24 - 00:33:56:11
Bunny
If that makes sense. No it does, it does. And like I said you know you've got to really keep not only the lines of communication with each other but with that couple. So if you really like them and if there was just something that night then you just say, hey, you know, maybe, maybe we can try again later or anything like that.
00:33:56:11 - 00:34:06:22
Bunny
But we keep everything like, you know, cool. Unless you just don't want to see him again like I did and said, nope, I'm not leaving with you. Right? Yeah, right. But.
00:34:06:24 - 00:34:14:11
Tom
I again, Are we are we talking about the.
00:34:14:15 - 00:34:20:25
Bunny
No no, no. So in their email that's next. So basically what we're talking about is, the.
00:34:20:28 - 00:34:23:04
Tom
More questions we've been asked.
00:34:23:06 - 00:34:43:04
Bunny
And the fact is, is, like you said to this one was just separate rooms or dating or playing together. And that's what you have to discuss and what you guys are comfortable with. Right? We do know couples that don't even like to play in the same room because they don't want to see each other. So they always separate and that works for them.
00:34:43:06 - 00:34:59:19
Bunny
So what works for somebody else may or may not work for you. And, it's like I always said, it's it's your pineapple world. You do what how you want to do it. And don't let anybody pressure you or make you feel bad about anything else.
00:34:59:22 - 00:35:29:21
Tom
Because at the end of the day, you're with your spouse, whether you like them or not, because again, like Bonnie said, she's seen we have seen people whisper into other singles, like we had one couple where the guy was telling his wife cooking a boyfriend, and then come home and tell me all about it while they played. And pretty soon she dumped him and she ended up marrying the boyfriend.
00:35:29:27 - 00:35:33:22
Tom
And we have seen that on numerous occasions.
00:35:33:22 - 00:35:44:16
Bunny
And we've seen it in couples too. Yes. Where for couple or two couples are really, really good friends, and then the other spouses don't know that there's something going on on the side.
00:35:44:16 - 00:35:54:29
Tom
Oh, yeah. cheating. I mean, the lifestyle that people say, oh, there's no cheating in the lifestyle. Yes, there is. And not everyone is.
00:35:55:01 - 00:35:56:03
Bunny
upfront and honest.
00:35:56:09 - 00:36:11:22
Tom
All right. Yeah. They're moral. Their morality. But yeah it just be like if they were cheating on their wife or husband without the lifestyle, they're doing it using the lifestyle to fine people.
00:36:11:24 - 00:36:12:20
Bunny
And we don't want to.
00:36:12:27 - 00:36:41:28
Tom
Now we did say what I at least one couple, two couples where they were monogamous and they were doing the hot and heavy with the, with with each other together. And then they realized they didn't have as much in common with their own spouses as they did with the other half of the other spouses. They literally all divorced, remarried the other half of the spouses, and then bought a house together.
00:36:41:28 - 00:36:46:18
Bunny
Yeah. And continued to live in a poly lifestyle.
00:36:46:21 - 00:36:48:08
Tom
Who would have thunk that?
00:36:48:11 - 00:36:50:20
Bunny
I mean.
00:36:50:22 - 00:36:52:21
Tom
But at least they acknowledge that.
00:36:52:24 - 00:37:13:29
Bunny
They weren't meant to be, right? So it was meant to be. And they just they found the one. And and it happens. It happens more than people realize, right. but no, it's like I said it to your pineapple world. You do it how you want to do it. You do, you do. You want to be a social pineapple?
00:37:13:29 - 00:37:18:11
Bunny
Or if you want to be a hardcore pineapple, more power.
00:37:18:13 - 00:37:44:05
Tom
There are pineapple people that was we ran a club for 20 years. We knew them. They would walk in the door and it was like notching the bedpost was. Their goal was. And husband and wives were are. Yeah. Husband wives would have competitions on who can bang the most people and in the six hours that they're going to be.
00:37:44:05 - 00:37:47:11
Bunny
There, they literally come up for a glass of water and go back down.
00:37:47:13 - 00:38:13:07
Tom
And they I mean, now me and Barney are like that. We're we're we were I mean, have we played with multiple couples in one setting? Absolutely. But to just go hibernate in the playroom and just stay there from the minute it opens to the time they're going to go home anyways, that does that's not the social.
00:38:13:09 - 00:38:16:02
Bunny
that's not our, our level of.
00:38:16:02 - 00:38:32:03
Tom
Comfort. Yeah. We like socializing. We don't, no orgy settings. I mean, there's a lot of orgies out there. Nothing wrong with them. Mind and bindings, kind of thoughts on this. Is.
00:38:32:05 - 00:38:34:24
Tom
Everyone has to be attracted to everyone.
00:38:34:26 - 00:38:38:09
Bunny
That's what I would think. Yes.
00:38:38:11 - 00:39:12:29
Tom
we do have to have an attraction, whether it be physical or mental. we both need to have somewhat of an attraction. And that type of environment you just got to be you got to put blinders on and I guess throw caution to the wind. Our big thing is call me OCD. I'm uncleanliness fanatic and going from partner to partner to partner to partner to partner to partner.
00:39:13:01 - 00:39:20:04
Tom
I don't know when they washed what happened in their prison wallets, I don't.
00:39:20:06 - 00:39:36:11
Bunny
Yeah, well a lot of you don't. You don't know if she if like if you're going with a girl you don't know if she's had, intercourse with somebody with condom on or without a condom on or if somebody did not know.
00:39:36:13 - 00:39:44:23
Tom
Did he? Not in her. And then next thing you know, she wants me to go down on her. I don't know, and I'm just very uncomfortable in those scenarios.
00:39:44:26 - 00:40:07:16
Bunny
Yeah. Yeah. No, no it's just funny because and like with you know a female I mean your, your balance is completely different than somebody else's. And if somebody even doesn't wipe around their body parts before they penetrate then guess what? I am going to get a bacterial.
00:40:07:16 - 00:40:09:17
Tom
Infection or a urinary tract infection.
00:40:09:22 - 00:40:17:00
Bunny
Just from the pH balance from female to female. So it just it's your your life.
00:40:17:02 - 00:40:45:12
Tom
Now, we did organize an orgy once, and what I did was I talked to a friend of mine because we were at a club. Everyone knew who we were, so we didn't want to out ourselves. So I asked him if he would be the front. It was a couple, if they would be the front people, and because they were one of the couples that would play with this many people, as they could in a party setting, which is fine with us.
00:40:45:12 - 00:41:11:23
Tom
We're okay with that. and if we could use his place and then we're fine with that, too, because I used to have parties. Yeah. So what I did was I went on a swing lifestyle.com or cassidy.com sdc.com, and I would look at everybody, all the profiles that we were attracted to. And then I would send them a message.
00:41:11:25 - 00:41:33:02
Tom
And if they were interested in coming to this party, we were creating, then we would open it up to, each couple that was and it was couples only each couple that was interested. We would then open up the other profile so that they could see.
00:41:33:05 - 00:41:33:25
Bunny
Who they.
00:41:33:25 - 00:42:02:24
Tom
Were attracted to each other, meaning it was all pre-planned. Everyone would have an attraction to everyone. And then we set it up to 8:00 to 9:00. Everyone met at this couples house and then 9:00 if you after meeting everyone for an hour and we had drinks, cocktails, we had pizza. If you weren't interested in even one person, how many people did we have?
00:42:02:29 - 00:42:06:26
Tom
We had 12 couples. So, yeah. And a 11th stay.
00:42:06:27 - 00:42:07:22
Bunny
Yeah.
00:42:07:24 - 00:42:37:07
Tom
If you weren't attracted to every single person and willing basically by staying, you were giving your consent. We weren't forcing it. We're just saying, consent was implied by staying after 9:00. The other thing was we locked the door. No one's allowed back in our in after 9:00. And that way it didn't interrupt anything. And then we had stacks of washcloths in the bathrooms.
00:42:37:09 - 00:42:54:26
Tom
If there was any penetration with or without a condom. We're not mom and dad. We're just saying, with or without, before it went into somebody else's present wallet, they needed to go to the bathroom and actually wash their junk. And so with the female.
00:42:55:25 - 00:43:02:25
Tom
And that was probably one of our best parties. We've only done it once and it was hard to do.
00:43:02:26 - 00:43:03:07
Bunny
Yeah.
00:43:03:13 - 00:43:10:03
Tom
But it was probably one of the best experiences we've ever had because it was, it was a lot of fun.
00:43:10:05 - 00:43:12:18
Bunny
It was a lot of fun for sure.
00:43:12:20 - 00:43:21:20
Tom
But he did have to pull somebody off of me because it was her intention to make me right. And Bonnie's right.
00:43:21:21 - 00:43:23:16
Bunny
No no no no no no no.
00:43:23:16 - 00:43:24:05
Tom
We're here to have.
00:43:24:05 - 00:43:42:06
Bunny
Fun with a lot of people and people. Not just one, not just one person. That was during Eddie. And when he was able to achieve an erection the minute he orgasm, he was done for the night night done. And I'm like, no, no, no no no no no no no.
00:43:42:10 - 00:43:45:26
Tom
Once it goes up it's fine. But once
00:43:45:28 - 00:43:51:13
Bunny
So I was like no no no no no he, he didn't come here for just you. Right. I was nice about it.
00:43:51:19 - 00:43:53:23
Tom
Now we haven't been this open in.
00:43:53:26 - 00:43:54:20
Bunny
A long time.
00:43:54:23 - 00:44:09:22
Tom
I mean we're, we're open books but we've never really laid it out there because like I said, these are questions people ask us. And we thought, you know what? We finally started documenting the questions and a lot of them are off the top of our heads.
00:44:09:22 - 00:44:26:02
Bunny
Right. And because, like I said, a lot of people were like, well, I don't want to go on a date with somebody or I don't want to be in separate rooms. So we just putting it out there that, yeah, Tom and I are normal everyday people that have the extra curricular, but we like to do it together.
00:44:26:07 - 00:44:29:11
Bunny
Yeah. So that's just it.
00:44:29:18 - 00:44:55:04
Tom
Now let me look. Let me show you how old I am. We got the glasses or 45 minutes. All right. So we're going to call this one, a done deal. We'll get this one up. If you did not know we are on YouTube, we're also on every part, part, podcast site. I'm getting tongue tied.
00:44:55:06 - 00:45:18:21
Tom
we also own all the social media platforms. Just look at Tom and Bonnie. If you're watching us, it's right there on the screen. Tom and boo and y. Yeah, and that's Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and all the, podcast sites. we like Spotify. I mean, it works out really good. And you can see all of our new images that we put up.
00:45:18:26 - 00:45:19:24
Bunny
Of course.
00:45:19:26 - 00:45:48:18
Tom
If you have any questions, go to Tom and bunny.com and click the contact link. And we'll, we'll reply to that. And if you are looking at traveling to hedonism, desire bliss cruises or even not in dollars, we would much, much, much really appreciate if you would book with Tom's trips.com because this is how we do these videos.
00:45:48:18 - 00:46:09:07
Tom
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00:46:09:09 - 00:46:11:21
Bunny
He's happy because they're not because they're.
00:46:11:21 - 00:46:17:10
Tom
Not going to talk to you about their sex life. So anyway, until next video.
00:46:17:13 - 00:46:18:13
Bunny
We'll see you soon.
00:46:18:14 - 00:46:19:15
Tom
We'll see you soon.
Ms No Swimsuit – Naughty in Nawlins and Northaven Resort
On this Podcast, we discuss our recent trips to Naughty in Nawlins, the largest upside down pineapple lifestyle swingers convention in the world! While at Naughty in Nawlins, we hosted one of the many parties on Bourbon St on Friday afternoon and promoted our Tom’s Trips Ms No Swimsuit competitions where one sexy lady out of 10 wins a chance to represent Naughty in Nawlins at Hedonism resort in Jamaica during the Tom’s Trips Ms No Swimsuit contest.  Attending this event, you are a Judge!
We also discuss our upcoming trip to Northaven Resort in Brooklyn Michigan where we will be the host for Tom’s Trips Caribbean party August 1st – 3rd , 2024Â Â Check out http://www.Northavenresort.com today
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00:00:23:07 – 00:00:50:01 Tom Hey everyone, we are Tom and Bunny from Tom and bunny.com. So if you are watching us on YouTube, it’s written right down at the bottom of your screen. And if you are listening to us on podcast, we invite you to come over to our YouTube channel. Because all week I got my dog pushing socks on me. All we do is we take the audio from our YouTubes and then put them over to podcasts.
00:00:50:08 – 00:00:54:05 Tom So if you want to see what Bunny is wearing right now, hubba hubba.
00:00:54:12 – 00:00:55:04 Bunny It’s new.
00:00:55:05 – 00:00:56:05 Tom It’s very new.
00:00:56:06 – 00:00:57:24 Bunny It is very new.
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00:01:11:15 – 00:01:15:14 Bunny It keeps it very easy. So we remember who we are right now.
00:01:15:14 – 00:01:19:09 Tom We work for Tom’s trips. Hold on. I’m going to put that on the screen.
00:01:19:10 – 00:01:20:09 Bunny There you go.
00:01:20:11 – 00:01:30:11 Tom You’re your leader in adult lifestyle. Travel to destinations all around the world. We book cruises, resorts and events like Noddy and Northerns. Yeah.
00:01:30:14 – 00:01:33:18 Bunny That was fun. We’re going to talk. We’re going to talk about that one this trip.
00:01:33:20 – 00:01:44:29 Tom Yeah. So right now we’re going to talk about a couple of events, a previous event not in dollars. And then North Haven. Yes, that’s coming up next week.
00:01:45:01 – 00:01:49:05 Bunny So that’s going to be August 2nd and third in Brooklyn, Michigan.
00:01:49:06 – 00:01:53:11 Tom Yeah. And we’re going to be we’re going to meet a couple other podcasters up there.
00:01:53:11 – 00:02:02:04 Bunny Why we’re there we are. It’s going to be a real fun filled weekend. But you know, one one thing that I want to know, how come everybody invites us out for the Jamaican week?
00:02:02:06 – 00:02:03:17 Tom I don’t know.
00:02:03:19 – 00:02:05:08 Bunny Do they think we’re just American or.
00:02:05:08 – 00:02:21:11 Tom Something? We aren’t American, but maybe because Tom’s Trips is the most booking travel agency. hedonism we saw and number two of the entire island of Jamaica. Mind.
00:02:21:13 – 00:02:22:20 Bunny So yes.
00:02:22:20 – 00:02:28:25 Tom We are, we are. Our company is well-respected in the travel industry and the Jamaica, region.
00:02:28:27 – 00:02:30:03 Bunny We’re quite busy.
00:02:30:05 – 00:02:31:02 Tom We are very.
00:02:31:02 – 00:02:32:08 Bunny Busy.
00:02:32:11 – 00:02:37:10 Tom So we just got back from Nadia and we did.
00:02:37:10 – 00:02:45:01 Bunny Oh, my gosh, we haven’t been there since before Covid, so I think the last time we were there was the summer of 2019.
00:02:45:02 – 00:03:01:07 Tom Yeah. And we we were excited to go back because our schedules haven’t allowed us to go back because it never coincided with our travel schedule. And we were always booked somewhere else.
00:03:01:09 – 00:03:11:16 Bunny So we definitely realized how much fun we had missed out on. Yes, every single time. And every time we go back, it gets bigger and bigger and bigger.
00:03:11:17 – 00:03:40:19 Tom It’s packed. I mean, you want to, meet thousands and I, I’m not exaggerating. Thousands of pineapple people in one place. Now they take up all of Bourbon Street. They take up several hotels, but they all wear, lanyards with their event passes on them. So you could spot a pineapple person walking down the street from a mile away.
00:03:40:20 – 00:03:52:17 Bunny You know, we we actually we booked very, very late and we did not stay at one of the host hotels. We had to stand and and another one and that’s our dog.
00:03:52:19 – 00:04:13:14 Bunny And as we’re walking down in front of the hotel, I looked at Tom and I’m like, hey, there’s some of those freaky people. Yes, they had their lanyards on and they kind of jump back. And I started laughing. I pulled mine out. Don’t worry, I am too. And they’re like, oh, should we not wear these down Burma Street?
00:04:13:14 – 00:04:28:23 Bunny I said, you can wear them wherever you want. And they said, certainly no one’s going to know when I’m like, ha ha. Everybody on Bourbon Street now was right when the pineapple people are in town. So sorry. our dog did not get the memo that today was a work day.
00:04:28:25 – 00:04:31:26 Tom Today is podcast day. Bama.
00:04:31:28 – 00:04:32:28 Bunny And she she.
00:04:32:29 – 00:04:47:27 Tom Bring me a sock. So, we absolutely had a blast at Naughty Dollars. more importantly, is one of the main reasons we went there was because Bob was getting married.
00:04:47:29 – 00:04:55:26 Bunny Yep. He got remarried, got remarried. It was a beautiful little intimate, setting. And it was really, really nice.
00:04:56:02 – 00:04:56:16 Tom Right.
00:04:56:16 – 00:05:00:28 Bunny So it was the first time that we got to meet Adrianna.
00:05:01:00 – 00:05:01:18 Tom Yes.
00:05:01:18 – 00:05:09:17 Bunny So. But it was so, so good to see so many people that we haven’t seen in absolute years. Tom, stop playing with your socks.
00:05:09:21 – 00:05:21:18 Tom I know I was trying to grab her because I was going to put her out here. I got her, I was going to put her on camera. This is our Bama.
00:05:23:05 – 00:05:35:16 Tom She likes to growl down, at our legs. And one video, we did a blooper reel and I called it bunnies Angry Vagina because she kept growling right in Bunny’s crotch.
00:05:35:19 – 00:06:03:11 Bunny It’s about what she’s going to start doing now. Luckily, it’s only a sock. Another squeaky toy or one of those honkers, right? So. Oh, funny story on that. She loves these stuffed animals at home and they make all these horrible noises. So I am in the middle of the store and I’m looking at this toy, and I honk it, and it sounded like a fart.
00:06:03:14 – 00:06:10:04 Bunny And I did it right as an employee was walking by me turn and he looked at me. Really? Now I start laughing. I said, it’s a toy.
00:06:10:06 – 00:06:11:06 Tom For toy, not.
00:06:11:06 – 00:06:11:27 Bunny Me.
00:06:11:29 – 00:06:41:11 Tom It was a for me. I don’t know what you’re talking about. So I didn’t say take up. I mean, it used to be just the weekends when we would go over there Thursday to get all checked in and the party started on Friday and Saturday. Now people show up on Monday. Yeah, they have a pre-party on Tuesday. Then it really kicks off Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and then everyone goes home Sunday.
00:06:41:17 – 00:06:43:24 Tom But they even have an after party on Sunday.
00:06:43:25 – 00:06:45:27 Bunny They drag home on Sunday.
00:06:45:29 – 00:07:18:08 Tom Yeah. if you are interested and going to not in all ends. There is a link on Tom’s trips.com. Tom’s trips.com. Just go to that web page and scroll down. You’ll see $19 for 2025. Book your room. Book your event. It’s something. Whether you’ve ever been to an event or ever traveled, you can feel comfortable there because you’re not just at a lifestyle only event.
00:07:18:13 – 00:07:20:28 Tom It’s everybody under the sun.
00:07:20:29 – 00:07:29:13 Bunny And there is something for everybody. I mean, starting at noon every day, you’re going to have two, two parties on Bourbon Street.
00:07:29:14 – 00:07:31:16 Tom Usually right across the street from each other.
00:07:31:16 – 00:07:43:28 Bunny And then at 3:00 you’ve got two more that spring up. If you’re not a party person, they have a pool party. So they have both pools open during the day, right? They have every seminar that you can possibly imagine.
00:07:44:04 – 00:07:46:05 Tom I’m kicking the dog. I think time.
00:07:46:07 – 00:07:55:07 Bunny One of the one of the, presenters that I, absolutely fell in love with. And I just thought she was amazing. Was Doctor Stephanie.
00:07:55:10 – 00:07:57:07 Tom Oh, she was awesome.
00:07:57:07 – 00:08:02:21 Bunny She was. We’ve been always keep missing each other. And it was finally great to finally meet her.
00:08:02:21 – 00:08:09:24 Tom And we got to meet Dan and Lacey from the, swinging Nation. the swinger society.
00:08:09:26 – 00:08:15:03 Bunny And let’s not forget, we got to reconnect with Jay and Angie from Avid Swingers.
00:08:15:06 – 00:08:25:05 Tom Yeah, so it’s been a long time since we’ve seen them. And on Tik Tok, if you ever seen her sexy swinger check, we got to meet her.
00:08:25:07 – 00:08:28:18 Bunny And, swinging flamingos. We also know very, very well.
00:08:28:18 – 00:08:29:10 Tom Yes.
00:08:29:12 – 00:08:30:28 Bunny I don’t know if we can say their names.
00:08:31:01 – 00:08:41:24 Tom I don’t think so. They were going to start posting their pictures because they said what the hell, we’re going to come out. And then all of a sudden they stop posting their pictures so we won’t say their name.
00:08:41:24 – 00:08:47:05 Bunny So we did meet quite, quite a few other podcasters and YouTubers.
00:08:47:06 – 00:08:48:07 Tom Up and comers.
00:08:48:08 – 00:08:51:17 Bunny But I am horrible with names and I’m really sorry.
00:08:51:19 – 00:09:04:22 Tom I know we should have wrote it all down, but, we we always suggest people this, and we suggest to people that they should listen. And, all kinds of content creators.
00:09:04:24 – 00:09:05:27 Bunny Some we.
00:09:06:03 – 00:09:06:25 Tom May.
00:09:06:28 – 00:09:13:02 Bunny Forget, some big ones that we’ve actually had many conversations with was.
00:09:13:05 – 00:09:20:17 Tom Charlie, Jackie from Open Love 101 and the owners of color, probably the biggest names out there.
00:09:20:20 – 00:09:24:10 Bunny So like I said, it’s just been everything’s been a whirlwind since we got back.
00:09:24:12 – 00:09:52:22 Tom We’re you know, we’re not scripted here. We’re just talking. So whatever comes flying through our little brains, it comes out of our mouth. And then so if we missed something, we do apologize. But we do, we do like that. There are up and comer podcasters, TikTok ers and YouTubers and stuff like that. You know, we always say, listen to everybody.
00:09:52:22 – 00:10:11:02 Tom You might resonate better with somebody, might not, you might get bad information, you might get great information. But the whole thing is a good melting pot of information that you can decipher from because every podcaster talks about stuff other people believe them.
00:10:11:06 – 00:10:16:25 Bunny Exactly. And there’s there’s a podcaster out there for everything. Everything from.
00:10:16:25 – 00:10:17:10 Tom From,
00:10:17:12 – 00:10:24:11 Bunny From the single females to the single males to young 20s all the way up to.
00:10:24:13 – 00:10:24:29 Tom All right.
00:10:25:00 – 00:10:29:21 Bunny All right, I, I wasn’t going to throw a number.
00:10:29:23 – 00:10:33:00 Tom if you’re going to go there, we might as well say, because we’re we’re old.
00:10:33:06 – 00:10:35:03 Bunny We’re the old ones out here.
00:10:35:05 – 00:10:51:23 Tom We are the old ones. when we started doing our YouTube channel, there was only a few out there. Average Swingers was doing their podcast, Open Love 101. John and Jackie, they were doing a YouTube channel.
00:10:52:12 – 00:11:23:14 Tom And there was maybe a couple of others, but it was a very new, environment. And we started it because we ran a club in California and we thought we kept hearing different information online, and then we would see the responses and we weren’t countering any responses. What what we were doing was telling people how we would personally navigate certain situations and the lifestyle in general.
00:11:23:16 – 00:11:30:24 Tom And what worked for us may or may not work for them, but at least it’s a guide or a direction they can look into.
00:11:31:01 – 00:11:53:09 Bunny Right? So now we’ll go back to 99 okay. So on top of meeting all of these people that we had never met before or reconnecting the ones that we haven’t seen in years, you know, you have all your different little seminars, right? And Tom was invited to sit in on one and it fizzled. It didn’t go anywhere.
00:11:53:10 – 00:11:57:11 Tom Nobody showed up.
00:11:57:13 – 00:12:01:24 Bunny But it was framed. The old guy felt like it was phrased.
00:12:01:26 – 00:12:22:14 Tom stuff that happened from years past or something. But you know what? It was, it was some other well-known people that own clubs, and we had some great stories. So y’all missed out because now we’re not going to repeat them. Oh, no, they’re locked away. They’re like, you know.
00:12:22:15 – 00:12:25:15 Bunny Yeah. We can’t share them now.
00:12:25:17 – 00:12:32:06 Tom That’s all right. So we had fun just chilling and we, we were going down memory lane with these people.
00:12:32:08 – 00:12:38:05 Bunny Oh, it was great. I mean, to see JC yeah, we haven’t seen JC since,
00:12:38:08 – 00:12:39:05 Tom American Republic.
00:12:39:05 – 00:12:45:04 Bunny Yeah, yeah. So so no, it was an absolute amazing time. We had so much fun.
00:12:45:08 – 00:12:47:20 Tom We did do the Miss No swimsuit contest.
00:12:47:20 – 00:12:48:14 Bunny We did.
00:12:48:14 – 00:12:59:20 Tom So this is where. So we are where we’re going to go. We we just decided we could go within two weeks notice.
00:13:00:07 – 00:13:28:17 Tom So we weren’t expecting to sponsor anything or to set up a booth or do anything because we, we didn’t know and we didn’t want to ask for anything because, you know, they already had their stuff coordinated. So Bob gave us our own party on Bourbon Street, and it was the, noon party. So we, we were going back and forth with Bob, and we were like, hey, we want to do a miss.
00:13:28:19 – 00:13:52:27 Tom No swimsuit. are we able to. And he goes, well, you could do anything you want, but remember the noon parties is kind of the start of the day, and people kind of trickle in, and it’s the, 3:00 party that because everyone is finally at the noon parties and it ends at three. So they’re ready to go to the 3:00 foreign.
00:13:52:28 – 00:13:53:24 Tom Really terrible.
00:13:53:24 – 00:13:57:01 Bunny And at the noon party, they’re just starting to drink.
00:13:57:01 – 00:14:13:20 Tom Yeah. So they’re not drunk yet. So the party, we didn’t think the party was going to be there. So we discussed it and we thought, well, yeah, we’ll play it by ear, we’ll see what happens. But if anything 2025, we will do an official miss No swimsuit contest.
00:14:13:21 – 00:14:20:22 Bunny Now, one of the things that you got to know about Tom and I is we are fly by the seat of our pants, right? If they say we can do it, we’re going.
00:14:20:22 – 00:14:22:08 Tom For it, and we will exploit it.
00:14:22:08 – 00:14:26:20 Bunny And we, you know, you said yes. Okay, we’re taking it all the way.
00:14:26:27 – 00:14:39:13 Tom So we used to do our Miss No swimsuit, raise you on Saturday at 3:00. It was one of the premiere parties. Besides the Kassidy foam party that was hard to compete with.
00:14:39:16 – 00:14:39:23 Bunny At the.
00:14:39:23 – 00:15:10:10 Tom Beach. At the beach. But we were the final party of the event, and it was really cool. They would block out all the windows so nobody could see it, and we would have anywhere from 10 to 15 ladies going up competing to represent Not and Orleans at our event miss no swimsuit in Jamaica. in March. Well this event we couldn’t get an answer if they could be nude or not.
00:15:10:11 – 00:15:17:24 Bunny We couldn’t even get an answer if we could have Ronnie come and announce it until the bar opened at 12.
00:15:17:25 – 00:15:41:04 Tom We didn’t know we could deejay it, or we knew there was gonna be a light band, but we didn’t know what control we had with the deejay, the microphone, or we could deejay. So we finally, five minutes before they open, we get this feel there’s going to be a band. We can use the microphones when, we can stop the band, we can make announcements, whatever.
00:15:41:06 – 00:16:02:19 Tom We can’t touch their deejay equipment. Even though we have had a professional sound and lighting guy right there, we weren’t allowed to touch it. It’s fine. They brought in a DJ, so we told them what we wanted to play, and we were finally told they didn’t care what we did. And we were like, are you sure?
00:16:02:21 – 00:16:05:22 Bunny Windows all open to Bourbon Street?
00:16:05:24 – 00:16:16:23 Tom Everything is wide open in this bar. The doors are wide open and we had ten contestants and they all got naked.
00:16:16:23 – 00:16:23:13 Bunny Well, it got really scary because, well, right at 12, just as we’re opening the doors, it starts to pour.
00:16:23:15 – 00:16:25:28 Tom Oh yeah. So we were like, okay, our party’s.
00:16:25:28 – 00:16:27:16 Bunny Just done because we’re.
00:16:27:18 – 00:16:28:18 Tom Way down bourbon.
00:16:28:21 – 00:16:46:06 Bunny And then next thing I know, I see people walking by us, and then I see him going next to the party across the street. And then I realize we don’t have any but a sign, a sign holder. So what happens is not in New Orleans, has people, volunteers, do, you know, for for different things and they are assigned different places.
00:16:46:06 – 00:16:46:29 Bunny Well, there is.
00:16:46:29 – 00:16:47:29 Tom A little fubar.
00:16:47:29 – 00:16:57:00 Bunny Yeah. And our sign holder person decided not to show up. So I’m like, screw this, I got it. So I’m out here dancing.
00:16:57:02 – 00:17:16:00 Tom Funny. She’s out there holding our sign, guiding people in. Of course they have to have the lanyards. Get it? And that was the only stipulation. Then she goes across the street to the other party and directs people over to our party.
00:17:16:03 – 00:17:17:12 Bunny Oh, we’re gonna make it there anyways.
00:17:17:12 – 00:17:49:05 Tom Meanwhile, the other bar is calling Bob’s saying, hey, no one’s coming in our bar. And meanwhile buddy out, they’re going go over to our party. So. Okay. So yeah, yeah, that was a little unscrupulous, but it was fun. we did finally get a couple door monitors and but there’s still the other party didn’t kick off because they knew what was going to happen at our party and they weren’t let down.
00:17:49:08 – 00:18:04:02 Bunny But come in coming at like 1230, 1:00. Everybody is just now starting to roll in. Now we only have this place until three, right? They’re starting to roll in. They’re all sober and trying to get girls to do this was like.
00:18:04:05 – 00:18:04:16 Tom Pulling.
00:18:04:16 – 00:18:05:12 Bunny Teeth. Yeah.
00:18:05:14 – 00:18:07:07 Tom Cause they were all sober.
00:18:07:09 – 00:18:20:20 Bunny And so we had two of our past contestants there. So we had Stacy Stacy and Dennis. Denise. Yeah. And with the help of those two, we were able to get ten contestants, right?
00:18:20:20 – 00:18:23:12 Tom And we were trying to keep it at ten.
00:18:23:20 – 00:18:26:14 Bunny Some of them did it just because they got a free pair of panties.
00:18:26:14 – 00:18:45:10 Tom Yes, we give out booty shorts, so I’ll I’ll play the video of Bunny holding the sign, and then I’ll show a picture of what the booty shorts look like. So I got to remember to do that. So if I didn’t do it, make a negative comment. That’ll get me on the ball next time.
00:18:45:12 – 00:18:51:18 Bunny But we had those girls, came onto the shoot like, normally the first one.
00:18:51:20 – 00:18:52:10 Tom Is so.
00:18:52:10 – 00:18:56:04 Bunny Shy and doesn’t really know what to do. Oh heck no.
00:18:56:04 – 00:19:06:14 Tom And as each girl goes, the other girls one up them because they seen what the other girls are doing. But the last girl.
00:19:06:17 – 00:19:10:27 Bunny Oh yeah. So the first girl, actually,
00:19:11:00 – 00:19:12:20 Tom And they did a phenomenal job.
00:19:12:21 – 00:19:22:00 Bunny The first girl came out immediately and got naked right away. and then she proceeded to put a lot of steam.
00:19:22:02 – 00:19:42:02 Tom I was being blocked by some dude. I had a great view of the stage and some seven foot tall dude walks right in front of me and stands there. And not only was I there, there was like four other people. Like, really? You’re seven feet tall. You should have a mental awareness to go against the wall, right?
00:19:42:04 – 00:19:42:22 Bunny You’re like, it wasn’t.
00:19:42:25 – 00:19:44:29 Tom So I got blocked for half of the contest.
00:19:44:29 – 00:19:57:21 Bunny But so no, they did. They absolutely did. Amazing. And one thing I was cracking up at is here, they’re naked on the stage and they don’t care. They don’t even see the people behind in the window. I know they’re looking in the window.
00:19:57:24 – 00:20:06:28 Tom I look over and I’m like, oh, they’re they’re getting a show. And like all, all eyes are inside.
00:20:07:05 – 00:20:17:00 Bunny And all of these girls there. The applause was just absolutely amazing. But they had a good time. But our winner our winner was last.
00:20:17:07 – 00:20:18:00 Tom Yes.
00:20:18:00 – 00:20:19:00 Bunny And, she.
00:20:19:00 – 00:20:20:03 Tom Was in to win.
00:20:20:03 – 00:20:22:08 Bunny It. Can we say what she did?
00:20:22:11 – 00:20:27:15 Tom Well, you got to be careful because of the censoring on YouTube, but you can.
00:20:27:18 – 00:20:30:05 Bunny Okay, so let’s just say that,
00:20:30:08 – 00:20:32:19 Tom You’re going to have to use a little imagination on this.
00:20:32:19 – 00:20:39:06 Bunny So she decided she wanted to put a small little alcohol bottle. Like what? You would get.
00:20:39:08 – 00:20:40:08 Tom The airline.
00:20:40:10 – 00:20:45:01 Bunny On and shot that little thing. She was going to put it in a place that it shouldn’t be.
00:20:45:05 – 00:20:47:14 Tom She was going to put it in her present wallet.
00:20:47:16 – 00:21:02:02 Bunny Yes. And then, Yeah, that’s where she was going to put it and then pull it out and do a shot. Yeah. Well, she sent her husband to the store to buy one of those, and he couldn’t find that. And he came back with one of this, did the double serving of wine bottle.
00:21:02:02 – 00:21:05:14 Tom That would do it. Two glasses.
00:21:05:16 – 00:21:06:03 Bunny In.
00:21:06:05 – 00:21:09:15 Tom The bottle was like, where’s that thing? Don’t know.
00:21:09:15 – 00:21:14:23 Bunny It’s just the first thing. She looked at her. She’s like, what do you want me to do with this?
00:21:14:25 – 00:21:32:24 Tom So while the other girls were competing, before the competition, she started getting, into our present wallet. It’s only for about five, ten minutes. Yeah, and once it was in there, she. I don’t think she want to take it out.
00:21:32:27 – 00:21:34:14 Bunny She was. She was enjoying it.
00:21:34:14 – 00:21:40:15 Tom She was enjoying it way too much. She just hit the, the neck of it up and down.
00:21:40:16 – 00:21:47:10 Bunny Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, it’s funny because she came right up immediately and got naked and like, oh my gosh, that thing is going to come out.
00:21:47:12 – 00:21:53:02 Tom I told her I should be careful about bending over. You’re going to shoot that thing out like a frickin shotgun shell.
00:21:53:09 – 00:22:07:00 Bunny Knock somebody out. Yeah. Somebody out. But then she should start dancing. She turned around, she squatted, and she pushed that thing right out, and, Oh, my God, that was it. Everybody went crazy.
00:22:07:05 – 00:22:27:08 Tom And then she opened it and took a big drink and then called Ronnie, one of our entertainers up, and he got down on his knees to do a body shot, and she just poured it down between her cleavage down into him, and he drank it, and then he spit it all over the audience.
00:22:27:10 – 00:22:29:17 Bunny Space thing. She just couldn’t make it out, like.
00:22:29:18 – 00:22:34:21 Tom I think we got. Oh, I was taking pictures of them, so I got a great picture of that.
00:22:34:21 – 00:22:41:18 Bunny So that guy finally moved. Yeah. You got to see the show. Yeah. But no, it it was really, really.
00:22:41:21 – 00:22:44:21 Tom Nice coming to.
00:22:44:23 – 00:22:47:22 Bunny swimsuit in March. March 1st be the eighth.
00:22:47:22 – 00:23:09:15 Tom March 1st to the eighth. If you would like to go to miss no swimsuit. It is one of Tom’s trips and hedonism, most interactive events. Because if you come to watch the competition and typically there’s 8 to 10 ladies representing clubs and events around the nation, you are a judge.
00:23:09:17 – 00:23:10:02 Bunny Yes.
00:23:10:02 – 00:23:25:13 Tom And your responsibility is to pick your top three. And then out of all the, combinations of points and math and everything, one is deemed a winner. And then we got a second place and a runner up.
00:23:25:15 – 00:23:35:13 Bunny so it’s super fun. And you get to see things like that before. Yes. Because we actually did have one that would always put glitter in her prison wallet.
00:23:35:15 – 00:23:39:17 Tom And throw it out.
00:23:39:19 – 00:23:40:19 Tom People are like.
00:23:40:22 – 00:23:41:10 Bunny Oh.
00:23:41:12 – 00:23:49:05 Tom Where are these people going? I’ve never been to a place like that. Well, you got to travel with us.
00:23:49:06 – 00:23:50:20 Bunny And you got to come to the party.
00:23:50:20 – 00:23:52:07 Tom You got to come to the parties.
00:23:52:10 – 00:24:03:15 Bunny Yes. So yeah, no, we definitely, definitely have a great time, that’s for sure. Yes. And and you know what stories like that people are like. Yeah, right. Whatever. Oh people that don’t live in our life.
00:24:03:15 – 00:24:05:14 Tom Right.
00:24:05:17 – 00:24:12:20 Bunny Relishing the boring. The boring people that are just going out for dinner and to the movies on the weekends.
00:24:12:23 – 00:24:13:03 Tom Yeah.
00:24:13:05 – 00:24:17:18 Bunny They’re like, people don’t really do that. Yeah, yeah, we do know.
00:24:17:20 – 00:24:19:04 Tom They don’t dress up for each other.
00:24:19:11 – 00:24:21:17 Bunny No, not at all. No, not at all.
00:24:21:19 – 00:25:06:24 Tom So, again, see? Yeah. Barney’s angry vagina down there. So if you would like to go to Nadia again, go to Tom’s trips.com. Scroll down. You’ll see Anthony and Nolan’s banner. Click it and it’ll take you right to the booking and everything. and then on miss no swimsuit you can go to no swimsuit.com. And I have been uploading pictures of the previous years of them, and I’m starting to upload the contestants for the 2025 contest, so just keep checking out.
00:25:06:24 – 00:25:19:29 Tom No swimsuit.com and you’ll get an eyeful. And follow us on Twitter because we post all the pictures we can’t post on Instagram and Facebook on Twitter.
00:25:21:01 – 00:25:23:03 Tom Yeah. So definitely go to Twitter.
00:25:23:05 – 00:25:23:24 Bunny So you.
00:25:23:24 – 00:25:28:06 Tom Can follow us on Twitter. Tom and Bonnie are troops.
00:25:28:11 – 00:25:38:04 Bunny So and for if you’d like to meet us they said next week I know it’s like really quick and it’s probably going to be that week. And you put the video out, I’m going to.
00:25:38:04 – 00:25:39:14 Tom Put it I’m going to try to put it out by.
00:25:39:14 – 00:25:43:22 Bunny Tomorrow, August. I think it’s the first, first, second, third. We’re going to be there.
00:25:43:23 – 00:25:44:29 Tom Got a calendar on your phone.
00:25:45:00 – 00:25:51:04 Bunny It’s okay. But we’re going to be at North Haven in Brooklyn, Michigan and then and.
00:25:51:07 – 00:26:05:14 Tom And the website to that is an o r t h a v and resort.com. So it’s not North Haven, it’s North Haven resort.com.
00:26:05:14 – 00:26:14:29 Bunny Yes. So it’s a really really fun place to go. You can it it’s a clothing optional. It’s a clothing up so clothing optional.
00:26:15:05 – 00:26:38:02 Tom So they have sometimes I mean it varies per event but some they have group breakfast on certain days they have group dinners where a group will supply dinner for the whole entire resort. Our breakfast. We’ve done that in the past. We last year we did margaritas, right?
00:26:38:05 – 00:26:40:12 Bunny We did. We did. We did a margaritas on.
00:26:40:12 – 00:26:42:10 Tom Soups and salsa bar.
00:26:42:12 – 00:26:54:25 Bunny So we are actually, they ask one of their members to kind of sponsor the party and they come up with it. Well, this year the their member, he’s they pretty much got everything covered.
00:26:54:26 – 00:27:03:09 Tom Yeah. So we we get to enjoy a lot marks. They’re going to handle the pool games and events and everything.
00:27:03:09 – 00:27:12:13 Bunny And Friday night they have a little pond. Yeah. And they call it the beach area. So on Friday night, we’re actually having a Caribbean beach party down there.
00:27:12:14 – 00:27:39:13 Tom Right. And then we are going to be bringing our Toms trips 360 photo booth. And we’ll set up and we’ll put the background image of that event for Friday night. and then we’ll do videos of all the guests. We don’t share those videos. We’ll share our videos. We don’t care. but all those videos go to each of the individual guests that was on the platform.
00:27:39:13 – 00:27:40:00 Bunny Yes.
00:27:40:00 – 00:27:48:26 Tom And the camera spins around them. They just stand there and as I say, looks stupid for 30s. And it will be an awesome video.
00:27:48:26 – 00:28:01:05 Bunny Yeah. Because if you look like you’re wanting to be sexy or anything, they don’t turn out, you gotta you gotta look like you’re having fun. Yeah. And then on Saturday night is my ever favorite theme. And it’s so easy for me. It’s glow night glow party.
00:28:01:07 – 00:28:09:12 Tom Yeah. And we’ll be setting up the 360 photo booth for a glow party. they have a nightclub there. It’s a really nice night.
00:28:09:13 – 00:28:10:27 Bunny Very, very nice nightclub.
00:28:10:27 – 00:28:16:20 Tom So we’ll we’ll set it up just out on their back. it’s the smoking patio, right?
00:28:16:23 – 00:28:27:12 Bunny so their hotel, their nightclub is called Hotel California, and it is open at least this Saturday night. Some some weekends. It’s open both Friday and Saturday.
00:28:27:15 – 00:28:46:08 Tom Now North Haven has cabins where they just have just a bed, dresser, TV and everything you would have except for bathrooms. they have a main bathroom with multiple showers and everything. And then they have, you can bring RVs in there.
00:28:46:10 – 00:28:50:22 Bunny They do have some rooms that have like a half bath. So at least you have a toilet in a safe.
00:28:50:23 – 00:29:14:29 Tom Okay. I didn’t know that. And then they have, residents that stay there throughout. Well, they don’t on the weekends. Some live there when it’s open and closed. It’s not open year around it. I think it’s open May through October or November. I don’t don’t quote me on the dates. You can check North haven.com. I’ll put a link across the screen.
00:29:15:01 – 00:29:23:22 Bunny Well it’s because it’s so high, so far into Michigan that I know that they the city turns off the water there like in October.
00:29:23:22 – 00:29:24:14 Tom Yeah, because.
00:29:24:19 – 00:29:26:01 Bunny They want it to freeze, you.
00:29:26:01 – 00:29:51:18 Tom Know. But we look forward to that. We we’ve been going there now for seven years. And a very clean very upscale resort. They have general store the prices are just normal prices in a resort like this. We’ve been to some they check up the prices on drinks or food or anything even ice here. It’s all just regular hours.
00:29:51:18 – 00:29:53:24 Tom If you went down to your local circle K right.
00:29:53:24 – 00:30:15:09 Bunny And it’s really nice because I mean you can get your, their, their logo, Yeti Yeti style mugs. You can get, milk. Yeah. Crackers. Chips. if you didn’t bring an outfit and you want a new sexy outfit, you can purchase one there too, right? So you pretty much a little bit of everything. And they have in that little store there.
00:30:15:10 – 00:30:19:17 Tom Yeah. And you get to talk to people and that’s where you get your best internet.
00:30:19:20 – 00:30:20:22 Bunny Yes. Yes it.
00:30:20:22 – 00:30:27:20 Tom Is. So you’ll see me up there in the little tail. They got several tables out front. They got an ice cream thing.
00:30:27:22 – 00:30:29:27 Bunny So if we ever need to do any work we go up there.
00:30:29:27 – 00:30:48:17 Tom We go up there. we, enjoy the pool parties because they will have a live deejay overlooking the pool. And then the the pool is. It’s a pretty good sized pool, but you got to get there early if you want to DCC.
00:30:48:19 – 00:31:05:11 Bunny Right? So if you want a chaise lounge, if you want to lay out. Yeah, you definitely have to be there early, right. and, you can’t have your alcohol in the pool. So that’s one of the reasons to why you want to get a chaise lounge. So that way you can go back to you and get get your stuff out of here.
00:31:05:11 – 00:31:06:25 Tom Any any mug.
00:31:06:27 – 00:31:10:04 Bunny Yet you want to bring your Yeti mug, your towels and your sunscreen.
00:31:10:05 – 00:31:24:08 Tom Now, we talked about, like, different breakfast is our margarita. knocks over our, our chips and salsa, dinners on Thursdays. What do they call it? The drunk, drunk bitch.
00:31:24:08 – 00:31:25:07 Bunny Thursdays.
00:31:25:09 – 00:32:01:10 Tom It’s Thursdays. And that’s where people. You’ll see golf. You can rent golf carts there. So we got a golf cart, thank God. Otherwise we’d be cheap. A cheap being around the place. But, you basically take your golf cart, and different residents will sponsor. They put our alcohol munchies. And when we’re not talking chips or dips, we’re talking, they’re pouring it a crock pot with man, which is, different sandwiches, different types of foods and everything.
00:32:01:10 – 00:32:05:04 Tom So it’s not like you can go hungry. And what time does that start?
00:32:05:06 – 00:32:20:01 Bunny I don’t even know what time that one starts. That’s Thursday afternoon. Thursday evening because you say evening because there’s nothing else going on. And then Friday you have whatever party or whatever they’re doing in the meantime. And then there’s always an after party on Fridays.
00:32:20:02 – 00:32:20:22 Tom Right.
00:32:20:24 – 00:32:29:10 Bunny And then, same thing on Saturday. There’s always an after party after a party on Saturday nights, too.
00:32:29:11 – 00:32:37:02 Tom Now, there was one time we went and I really liked, and that’s where the the residents.
00:32:37:05 – 00:32:38:02 Bunny Meet your neighbors.
00:32:38:02 – 00:32:40:14 Tom Meet your neighbors. Okay. That’s what it was called.
00:32:41:16 – 00:33:03:06 Tom They would set up either alcohol, like a bar or, some did both. Alcohol and or Ders. We, we’re not lying when we’re talking. They were serving filet mignon bites. They were serving prime rib sandwiches. They were going all out on this stuff.
00:33:03:08 – 00:33:04:26 Bunny Because they won a prize.
00:33:04:29 – 00:33:08:24 Tom They won a prize, but still, I was very, very.
00:33:08:25 – 00:33:14:12 Bunny How about the shrimp? They had shrimp that were as big as my hand. Huge like a prawn.
00:33:14:14 – 00:33:37:00 Tom So, yeah. it’s definitely like I said, it’s an upscale resort. Very, very nice resort. The, the people who the residents as well as the guests are all amazing. Yeah. It’s you could talk to everybody. Nobody’s a stranger, nobody. And there’s no clicks. They just hang out and everything. And all you got to do is just walk up.
00:33:37:00 – 00:33:45:08 Tom I mean, people view people as clicks. If they don’t get invited into the conversation, just walk up and say, how are you guys doing? And you’re part of the conversation.
00:33:45:08 – 00:33:53:12 Bunny And if you’re an Avia and you, you’re looking for a place of they’re open, you know, seven days a week during.
00:33:53:14 – 00:33:54:12 Tom Right during.
00:33:54:12 – 00:34:01:21 Bunny Season. So, I mean, you can roll in there on Monday and just enjoy the resort and relax and lay out at the pool.
00:34:01:21 – 00:34:02:23 Tom And then the party and.
00:34:02:24 – 00:34:05:07 Bunny I start Thursday.
00:34:05:10 – 00:34:24:27 Tom And so we’ll be going up world even our house in Nashville on Wednesday so we can pull in Thursday morning. Yep. And then, we’re bringing our motorhome and pulling our Wrangler because we can’t put the 360 both in our motorhome. So we got to pull the cheek to put the 360. Both in the back.
00:34:25:05 – 00:34:26:26 Bunny Don’t let them lie to you.
00:34:26:29 – 00:34:27:21 Tom I’m excited.
00:34:27:25 – 00:34:29:10 Bunny He just liked full of Jeep.
00:34:29:10 – 00:34:29:29 Tom It looks bad.
00:34:29:29 – 00:34:31:01 Bunny Out.
00:34:31:04 – 00:34:32:27 Tom It really does.
00:34:32:29 – 00:34:33:13 Bunny It sure.
00:34:33:13 – 00:34:39:02 Tom Does. But check out North haven.com. Lawton is.
00:34:39:05 – 00:34:40:08 Bunny North North Haven.
00:34:40:14 – 00:34:49:23 Tom North haven.com. Yeah North haven.com. And like I said I’ll put links throughout the video and everything right over the top of our faces.
00:34:49:23 – 00:34:51:16 Bunny And you will not be disappointed at all.
00:34:51:17 – 00:35:09:06 Tom You won’t be disappointed. And hopefully you guys come out, the first weekend of August. We’ll be there. we know that there’s gonna be another, couple that just started doing podcast, and so we’re going to meet them while we’re there. So that’ll be kind of fun and interesting.
00:35:09:07 – 00:35:10:16 Bunny Absolutely. Yeah.
00:35:10:18 – 00:35:30:27 Tom And, they’re going to be doing a party in South Bend, Indiana pretty soon in September. We can’t go because we’re going to be in to make them on. But if you’re looking for a party in South Bend, Indiana, send us a message. We’ll get you hooked up with that couple, and hopefully we can help them get all sold out.
00:35:30:27 – 00:35:31:07 Tom And.
00:35:31:14 – 00:35:32:01 Bunny Right, right.
00:35:32:02 – 00:35:35:12 Tom This is our first party.
00:35:35:14 – 00:35:37:13 Bunny more power to them.
00:35:37:15 – 00:35:39:09 Tom Hahaha.
00:35:39:11 – 00:35:46:05 Bunny Parties are fun. They’re fun to run. But man, you, Yeah, it’s a lot of work.
00:35:46:07 – 00:35:48:16 Tom So how much time are we into this far?
00:35:48:17 – 00:35:50:07 Bunny I don’t know, I can’t see I’m getting on.
00:35:50:13 – 00:35:59:10 Tom Hold on. I’m going to put the glasses on. We are, 35. Man, that’s not bad.
00:35:59:12 – 00:36:02:13 Bunny I five.
00:36:02:15 – 00:36:16:01 Tom All right, so we are going to be doing a couple videos after this about just pineapple world stuff. as we’ve been going around, I know we haven’t done a video in a while, and if we have, it was about my junk.
00:36:16:04 – 00:36:17:22 Bunny And which is healing perfect.
00:36:17:23 – 00:36:25:23 Tom It’s healing perfectly. So we are going to get my urologist. I was just chatting with him last Saturday.
00:36:25:25 – 00:36:26:09 Bunny Yes.
00:36:26:10 – 00:36:46:24 Tom And so we will get him. I gave him the dates that we’re not going to be here. So I told him whatever date he wants to come up. And if you have any questions for the urologist, send, don’t go to Tom bodycon. We have a contact link on there. Send us messages and I will ask the urologist right here on camera.
00:36:47:12 – 00:36:50:13 Tom And even may or may not answer but I’ll ask.
00:36:50:15 – 00:36:57:02 Bunny Well and even then you know like I said, if you have any questions regarding any of that.
00:36:57:05 – 00:37:19:29 Tom Implants, ed medications, you know, a lot of people we hear all the time in front of a lot of people that no one ever has an issue. Privately, I get all the messages and our the text, our calls are feedback saying, hey, I, I’m embarrassed. I don’t want to ever bring this up. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
00:37:19:29 – 00:37:24:25 Tom No. It’s life. I mean, we lose our eyesight. I say, I got glasses.
00:37:24:29 – 00:37:25:12 Bunny We lose our.
00:37:25:12 – 00:37:28:02 Tom Hair, we lose.
00:37:29:03 – 00:37:29:21 Tom I will lose them.
00:37:29:21 – 00:37:31:08 Bunny I got a spot right here.
00:37:31:08 – 00:37:33:14 Tom I did have my cochlear implants.
00:37:33:21 – 00:37:36:00 Bunny Yeah, my sixth surgery.
00:37:36:00 – 00:37:57:19 Tom So we gotta turn it head. I will, I was doing this, but I’ve had six surgeries because each time they do one surgery at a time to make sure that it works and everything. So I started with the bars, and then I went to the Baja Magnetic. Now I’m on the OCA, TOS and the OCA to let me see if I can take it off.
00:37:57:21 – 00:38:12:21 Tom It is this little thing here. It’s not very big, and it just magnetized this to the side of my head, and then I can hear everything. I can stream my TV to them. I can talk on my phone through them. I can watch TikTok through them.
00:38:12:24 – 00:38:13:28 Bunny You know, it’s pretty interesting.
00:38:13:28 – 00:38:18:29 Tom This is what they look like. Camera. Yep. Okay. Yep. So I’ve got one on both sides.
00:38:19:05 – 00:38:47:29 Bunny It was pretty interesting because his otolaryngologist is very new to the Nashville area and to the, clinic that we go to. and then when we went in for the first surgery, the, the nurse was like, so who is this doctor? I’ve never heard of them. And I’m like, oh, you know. And I told her, I said, he’s the only one outside of Vanderbilt that’s doing these implants, right?
00:38:47:29 – 00:38:49:19 Tom Yeah. It’s only two doctors.
00:38:49:19 – 00:38:58:23 Bunny Yeah. And then he comes back in two months later and they’re like, oh my gosh, you’re back. They’re not used to doing two. They’re used to only doing one right.
00:38:58:23 – 00:39:27:01 Tom Most people that have a cochlear implant have one because it uses your skull as a conductor for your hearing. Could I go with one? I could, but I don’t hear as well because I am deaf. I mean, if you look at my hearing results, I am 95% deaf beyond deaf. So while I have one, I could hear, I just don’t hear as well.
00:39:27:01 – 00:39:34:25 Tom With both of them. I still even struggle. And this is directly connected to my yes, my inner ears.
00:39:39:05 – 00:39:41:10 Tom I can’t tell direction.
00:39:41:10 – 00:39:41:20 Bunny No.
00:39:41:20 – 00:39:48:20 Tom So buddy, in a storm, we’ll go. Tom and I got a staff and I go out to the I.
00:39:48:23 – 00:39:49:05 Bunny I got.
00:39:49:05 – 00:39:55:06 Tom It, and then I start doing a slow circle and looking for.
00:39:55:06 – 00:40:00:05 Bunny Her. I have to start telling him, all right, go to the front of the store, stop at the main island, stay there.
00:40:00:06 – 00:40:01:20 Tom I wonder what people think.
00:40:01:20 – 00:40:04:12 Bunny When we were yelling through the store.
00:40:04:12 – 00:40:06:22 Tom We are.
00:40:06:25 – 00:40:08:27 Bunny Because usually the phones in the car, we.
00:40:08:28 – 00:40:14:25 Tom Got no shame in our game. Yeah, we have a call each other. Oh, why don’t we call each other?
00:40:14:28 – 00:40:15:21 Bunny I don’t know.
00:40:15:24 – 00:40:17:00 Tom That would probably be.
00:40:17:03 – 00:40:22:05 Bunny So, you know, funny story. His aunt and, cousin were just out here.
00:40:22:08 – 00:40:23:00 Tom You know, and we took him.
00:40:23:00 – 00:40:27:11 Bunny In that we took him to Nashville, and the stores were packed, and we went there on Sunday.
00:40:27:15 – 00:40:32:06 Tom Saturday, Sunday. No, no, it was Sunday. We left Monday.
00:40:32:07 – 00:40:40:29 Bunny Sunday afternoon, and the stores were packed and we’re trying to find everything. So it’s. Aren’t you open? Marco? And everybody turn around. Oh.
00:40:41:00 – 00:40:45:19 Tom Store yours. Paulo. I think they need new words.
00:40:45:21 – 00:40:47:20 Bunny Yeah, that one didn’t work out or.
00:40:47:24 – 00:40:48:21 Tom That didn’t work out too.
00:40:48:22 – 00:40:52:11 Bunny Well. But it was cute, because then we went into another store and they did it again.
00:40:52:13 – 00:41:13:08 Tom Yep. my hand surgery. So if you’ve ever if you’ve been following on that, am I, I’m not really happy with. That’s as far as I can open this hand or this hand I can open all the way. This doctor pat himself on the back saying how great he was. I asked him to call this doctor because I really had faith in what this doctor did.
00:41:13:08 – 00:41:32:29 Tom My pinky is a little crooked, but the rest of that hand is good. And this doctor says, I’m the man. I know what I’m doing. Oh, I’m so mad. Why can’t somebody just bring their ego check down, make a phone call and say, what did you do? Because this guy’s already had seven prior.
00:41:32:29 – 00:41:33:26 Bunny Surgery because of.
00:41:33:26 – 00:41:37:03 Tom And you’re the only one that’s actually wanted his hand.
00:41:37:04 – 00:41:47:17 Bunny And it’s, you know, out of all of Tom’s doctors, he is the he is the least trusted. And he won’t go back home. And we just talked to somebody.
00:41:47:17 – 00:42:02:12 Tom We bought something off Facebook Marketplace, and she had the same doctor and he totally messed up her hand. I mean, we’re talking a lawsuit, lots and all kinds of stuff going on. Yeah, but yeah, I don’t like what he did to my hand.
00:42:02:12 – 00:42:09:01 Bunny And but all of our other doctors, we just absolutely love them. Yeah. They’ve been amazing. All right. So we’ve we’re done with this.
00:42:09:03 – 00:42:10:14 Tom Really I’m not.
00:42:10:16 – 00:42:13:03 Bunny Yeah you are. You’re just rambling now.
00:42:13:03 – 00:42:14:10 Tom I am rambling because that’s the.
00:42:14:17 – 00:42:15:27 Bunny Ramble on the next video.
00:42:15:28 – 00:42:41:10 Tom All right. So if you are watching this on YouTube, we do transpose all this YouTubes into audio files and put them on podcast. We’re on all the major podcast sites. We’re on iTunes, we’re on Google Podcasts. I think they’re going away. But Spotify, that’s what I listen to my podcast on. And typing all of the even the lower ones.
00:42:41:10 – 00:43:02:29 Tom So if we’re not on a podcast site, message us. We’ll get ourselves added. if you are listening to us on podcasts, definitely check us out on YouTube. we actually we don’t make much money. We are monetized. We might be able to get a Happy Meal one month, or we might be able to go to a nice dinner.
00:43:02:29 – 00:43:15:14 Tom So it’s up to you to watch our videos. And if you’re not going to watch all of our video, we don’t care. Click play and go to the bathroom, take a shower, go to work something. Just let it play all the way through. Yeah.
00:43:15:17 – 00:43:25:10 Bunny So, our biggest, our biggest grossing one was Tom broke his penis. So. Yeah, I don’t know. I don’t I don’t think we could top that one. We’ll see.
00:43:25:13 – 00:43:50:05 Tom We’ll we’ll eventually get there. But, follow us on Twitter. We have several accounts. We got Tom and Bonnie. That’s, our more popular one. We have Tom’s trips and we have no, miss no swimsuit. on Instagram, we have Tom and Bonnie, and we have Tom’s trips. And then on Facebook, we have, Tom and Bonnie.
00:43:50:05 – 00:43:57:05 Tom So just search Tom and Bonnie everywhere. And you’re going to hear about Tom’s trips here regardless.
00:43:57:08 – 00:43:59:03 Bunny Yes. You whether you want to or not.
00:43:59:05 – 00:44:05:21 Tom But we do post mostly on on our personal stuff, pictures and stuff on Tom and Bonnie.
00:44:05:29 – 00:44:08:21 Bunny Yes. That’s it. That being said.
00:44:08:24 – 00:44:10:20 Tom All right, we’ll see you soon.
00:44:10:21 – 00:44:12:02 Bunny We’ll see you soon.
